An AIBU for lone parents

[AlbaGuBrath]

To be pretty fucked off with the way certain lone parent threads both within and out with this topic are being ripped apart by other posters.

So for example a LP posts regarding an issue to do with the children where the ex is concerned or just the ex and despite explaining in full unreasonable behaviour on the other parties side the responses are riddled with comments suggesting the LP is lying and or exaggerating and that actually the other party (given the chance to give their side) would be being perfectly reasonable?

Is it just me that's noticed this ALOT recently? In almost every other type of thread the OPs word on the situation is taken on the face of it to be truth and yet when it's a lone parent more and more posters are jumping on the "you're a man hating, contact blocking, money stealing bitter ex".

Maybe I'm feeling a bit oversensitive and imagining it but I really don't think so.

Maybe I'm feeling a bit oversensitive and imagining it but I really don't think so

I think this is probably the case.

You should see the SP board!

This place is riddled with trolls atm. LP and SP seem to be favourites. Don't feed is my advice, seriously, hard as it is just completely ignore goady posts, they'll get bored eventually.

You're right OP. I wouldn't worry too much though, a couple of them are well known for it and really not to be taken seriously.

I'd imagine it's to do with the emotional investment as a LP, NRP, SP or whatever. There's a lot of projection on these sorts of threads that there isn't on other threads, in both directions - a lot of assumptions made based on not very much if anything at all. I also think it's healthy to have someone on such threads offering an alternative view, playing devils advocate or whatever. I haven't noticed any trolls really, just (sometimes strongly) differing opinions.

I've noticed it across the boards at the moment. People seem to think that a self moderating site where you can use swear words means they can behave like twats.

MNHQ just confirmed on another thread the level of trolldom has increased recently.

I've got to admit I've noticed the trolls think everyone has but the posts I'm referring to actually by regular MN posters they just seem to be infiltrating every lone parent thread.

I admit I don't frequent the SP threads often but can imagine it's similar.

Maybe it is trolls but they just haven't been obvious enough to be banned why anyone would bother is beyond me.

Yanbu. It gets right on my tits.

I've stopped posting on the LP boards as ex and his new g.f would search them for me and recognise him/his previous behaviour even if I name changed and make nasty comments. IMO there are a lot of angry exp's and their new partners out there with nothing better to do with their time than try to bring down the person looking after their kids.

Does that sort of thing not constitute harassment Limb?

Probably, but the idea they were that bothered about my life (esp as when you post on LP you are usually a bit low to start with) just made me take a step back. They'd just get another email address anyway. I'd rather show them how petty they look chasing me about tbh!

That's quite sad, both them being that pathetic and you not being able to use these board when they can be helpful. I think what Is annoying me the most is an element of scare mo goring that seeing. Vulnerable posters getting inundated with posters using worst case scenario as an example of the norm.

Should clarify that that is mainly on legal advice/court threads.