Ex engaged to someone else after 14 months I just want to cry

[Chloebw]

I have a 14m dd. ex left when she was 6 days old. I just want to eat crisps and ice cream and cry I feel like someone has kicked me in the stomach

Any man that can walk out on his 6 day old baby is not worth having. She is welcome to him, the poor woman. Keep repeating this to yourself.

Please talk to your friends and family in rl. Treat yourself and look after yourself. You need time to heal.

He really is no loss. Nomatter what the situation, to walk out on you and his week old DD shows he is a man without a thought for anyone but himself.

Understandable that you feel shit, but you really don't want someone like this in your life.

Please don't feel shit. Your happiness isn't measured by his. Invest time in yourself doing what you enjoy and keep yourself occupied. I recently joined Instagram and follow a page called the Good Vibe - being surrounded by the positivity has worded wonders

And he sounds like a knob to do that to you. with time you will realise that

Best revenege is to move on ..Sometimes these things while they don't seem it at the time can help finially closing a chapter

In the end you will be MUCH happier without this toad in your life - actually that's insulting to toads.

It's OK to feel sad you know. Means your heart and feelings are all in the right place. It will take time but you can move on.
I would be very wary of dating let alone marrying someone like him. He rounds very weak to string you along when he should,d have walked before getting you pregnant.
The positive is that you have your DD out of this mess.

Aw thanks for your nice comments. I just wish it was my turn to meet someone nice.

Good things happen to good people, remember that!! I will happen. He wasnt a good man to do what he did. Six days old and he walks out on his baby and mother of his child... You are well rid!

He's a complete twat. Soon you will feel sorry for his gf. Your time will come.

he left you with a six day old baby?

I agree with PPs. She is WELCOME to this 'catch'. In time, when your self-esteem is better and when you've bounced back and you're more independent, you will find somebody better. Really. It's still early days when you have a toddler.

When you still care what HE is doing, it is too soon to have an eye out for somebody new for you, ykwim. There will come a day when you couldn't care less what he does.

Boxtoxedandspanked I think your right. I dunno why I'm so fussed. He could come running to me now and the door would be shut in his face. Guess it's just self esteem

14 months is nothing. Really. It took me 18 months to stop "engaging" in pointless battles with my x (by text, by email).... it took me up to 3 years to stop caring that I was (ooooh the shame) a single parent, and it took me maybe four to get to the point where I thoguht, omg, I am, happy, confident, I've found my place, I no longer want to be a Respectable Married Woman, I'm ok with what life has dealt me............ so, I hope that you don't feel depressed by this but 14 months is not a long time. It's still early in the journey. So don't rush in to anything. Accept that in the grander scheme of things it's still early in the journey. Just look after yourself and your daughter for now, and have faith that you will find your place (and your mojo!) again! you will.

x

ps, read a few books about self -esteem. i did that and it did me the world of good. obviously i was ready to learn it, i had recognised that it was maybe the cuase of some bad decisions i'd made. but i read a few books at the right time and they consilidated thoughts I'd been feeling.............. gave me a back bone.