We separated in April. At the moment we split weekends and he has children one night midweek. I have requested the midweek becomes sch pick up til bedtime as they are not coping well with the back and forth between houses and get tired for school. He reacted badly to this, even though all he will miss is them being asleep and having breakfast the next morning. I also suggested he has slightly more time in holidays which would be easier as children more relaxed etc. They are 9 and 11 and have told me they would rather see Dad but not have too many overnights there as they like to come home.
He is now threatening court etc and saying he wants much more time with them. I am filled with dread. I have always been their main carer and when he lived with us he was very disinterested in spending time with them (always on the golf course). It is good that he is taking an interest but he is also using this to get at me (and reduce his maintenance payments).
I am struggling to get through day to day at the moment as so worried about this. Does anyone have advice/experience...even if it is just advice on how I can accept and deal with the fact they will be away from me so much more?