Ex left two years ago after 15 year psychological and financial abusive relationship. He barely contacts dd and out the blue today his mother rings dd (12) to ask if she wanted to pop to see him, just for 5mins, then visit some family members afterwards. Ex mil doesn't make contact either usually so dd was a bit 
but wanted to see her dad as it had been 8 months since she last did, despite him living 10mins away, so agreed to go.
Turns out she was at her dads (new partner and her kids) home for over 2hours. Dd asked if they could go a couple of times and she was told not to be so rude?!!
A few other details emerged whilst she was there, which I know are always going to be hard for me to swallow (and would out me if I explained more) but basically made me feel totally crap, he is now doing things with new family that he was very against doing with us, making large purchases and going places he caused a violent scene against when we tried to go?!
Feel like total crap tonight, dd is actually ok and said it was alright today, so I know that's a positive but can't help but feel demolished, was I really that bad? :(