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DS2 had an operation

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HHH3 · 20/09/2014 10:25

21 months. Had his tonsils and adenoids out on Thursday. We're home and he's doing well. DS1 is at his dad's for a few days.

Now we've got past the op I think it's starting to hit me. All the other kids had 2 parents with them. This meant they could take it in turns to have a break/get something to eat. And of course they were there to support each other. Apart from when a nurse kindly offered to look after DS while I quickly grabbed some lunch and when he was having his op I didn't get a break at all. And as we weren't at a local hospital no friends were able to visit.

I just feel so sad. DS's dad died last year. He should've been there but instead it was just me. And it's got me thinking...when he took his first step, said his first word, as well as excitement there was also a bit of sadness that his dad was missing it. Will it be like that for every big (and little) thing? Forever? Sad

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AuntySib · 20/09/2014 10:33

Oh that's hard, going through that by yourself. Physically and mentally draining coming at the end of what must have been a dreadful period bin your life.
I've no real experience of what you've been through, but the effects of bereavement are less sharp with the passage of time. But I suspect you will always be aware that your

AuntySib · 20/09/2014 10:41

Sorry posted too soon.
You'll always be aware that DS's dad is not there to share important times, but it won't always be quite so painful.
Sorry can't say anything more helpful but really felt for you.
You did brilliantly to cope with that by yourself, now he's safely back home you need lots of chocolate! Is there anyone who can come over and look after you for a day or so??
Hugs and hand holding xx

HHH3 · 20/09/2014 11:04

Thanks Aunty.

I spoke to friends before he had the op and explained that he needed to be kept away from lots of people for a couple of weeks so he didn't pick up any bugs. But that it was still ok to see people as long as they're well. Everyone said they'd visit. Some even said they'd bring food if he was really clingy and it was difficult to cook. They all know I don't do well if I spend lots of time alone.

And....nothing so far Sad

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cestlavielife · 20/09/2014 20:21

it will always hurt ...

call those friends, say you know you said you woudl cook for me well i really need that now..can you come tomorrow

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