ExH, history of DV,went abroad 10 years ago, DS refusing to go to contact and his dad had promised not to make him then went ahead and got court order for a months holiday. my DS is 11 (Soon 12) -
when he refused to go, this is his dads response (edited to make unidentifiable)
… don't know what to make of it??? is it threatening or just laughable?
(or and see latest on the maintenance….)
XXX My Wonderful Son,
Let me tell you a story, when I was about your age my mother registered me in Karate, I started crying ... if I didn’t stand right the teacher would hit me with a stick to correct my position. I have to say that even the harshness of the teaching methods and the apparent dryness of the class, I ended up understanding ... later I was very lucky to have had one of the teachers who I hope I can introduce you also someday soon.
I am saying this so you understand that when I was a child I was also in situations when I thought that I knew what I wanted and what was best for me, although at the end my parents through their experience guided me to unsuspected paths that at the end were much better for me.
I understand your confusion, and honestly when I told you that I would not take you I was thinking that, but later thinking about it more in depth is that I changed my opinion.
Also l remember you saying: “Papa sometimes you are really right about what you say”, there are things that experience has taught me and that you will also learn and understand when you grow up.
Love,
Papa