What days does your ex have your DS/DD ?

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I split with my ex last October, and from the beginning he wanted exact 50/50 share of our DS.
We have been using 2,2,3 method, which I always felt was DS being passed around a lot.
I have stayed in our flat with DS and ex moved to his mothers house about 5 miles away.
Now DS starts reception next week, the school is 0.5 miles from our flat.
I'm thinking of reducing my hours, so I can pick up DS from school instead of him going to the after school club everyday.

Anyway this would mean changing hours to static. ie me; mon, tues
ex; wed, thur and alternate fri eve, sat,sun.
But now thinking about it it would mean some weeks our DS would be at ex's from wed night to sun night inclusive. 5 nights !

Is this too long away from me ?
To be honest, I have always struggle with this 50/50 share and I never wanted it, but I do want what is best for DS.

Any advice very welcome......

It would also mean some times your ex has to not see your son for 5 days at a time- which he may struggle with too. What does he suggest? Why can't the current pattern continue or can't your ex get him to school?

I have sun mon tue nights, he has wed thur fri nights and we alternate sat night.

If it stayed the same I would be alternating weeks at the after school club and the same at work.
I doubt either would be accepted.

Has your ex agreed? He might be thinking he will reduce his working hours and collect from school each day? Or he may have another suggestion. I think if you need set days each week for childcare planning purposes then a Mon-Tues with Mum Weds-Thurs with Dad then alternate Fri-Sun is the only way to works if you want to equally share parenting time.

Or what no more suggested

I think as you are aware needs discussing with Ex but most are soo tired when they start Reception seems like a really good idea.

What about mon tues with you
Wed thurs with him
Friday alternate weeks
Saturday sunday alternate weeks if you don't have friday.
Although he may object to not seeing his child 4 days

Also you both need to factor in parties which in recpetion do tend to pour in so most saturdays are spent escorting them to parties.

Are you both happy to do this?

My ex has DS (9) ad DD (11) on alternate weekends. They are picked up at 9am on Sat morning and returned to me at 8pm on a Sunday.

There is no contact from him in the time they are with me and so sometimes go 12 days without hearing from him.

I wouldn't have it any other way and they seem quite happy. Dad is aspergers type and thinks he does a great job with them!