I've been posting and reading on here since my ex dumped me in January. He's hardly been bothered to see our 2yr old dd but all of a sudden he's bought a house with his home wrecking girlfriend and he now wants dd overnight.
My reaction is sick to the stomach, heart wrenching turmoil and I can't eat or sleep and that's before it's even happened.
I can't help but notice every day similar posts from mothers whose reaction is the same, they want their kids to spend time with their dads and aren't stopping them but overnights are different.
Answers are variable. I notice courts would grant overnights at even young ages and I just wonder what the right answer is.
If the feeling of dread for a mother to send young children overnight is so common are we all wrong? Are we all crazy deluded people who are trying to stand in our ex's way or is there actually something in our instincts that is right?
We have to accept that everyone is different. I've read on here posts from people who have been through overnights/two homes and come out healthy unscarred adults. Not everyone's child/ beliefs are the same.
When I had my child I would never have dreamed that one day she d be spending part of her life living in someone else's house being raised in part by another woman.
I do not accept this. I refuse to see how this is good for my daughter. I will never get over it. I will be physically sick the night she goes there and refuse to see how it can ever possibly get better or easier.
I'm a healthy normal person, I don't have mental health issues. I'm an exceptional mother. I just love my daughter and don't want to send her off to a man who can't even look after her properly never mind some woman I know nothing of. She is my precious most valuable thing in life and she needs her mummy.
It's so wrong that these awful fathers get overnights.
(Cries-got no control will have to face worst fear soon-it's coming-can't bear it).
Good luck changing my mind.