I met my now ex husband on holiday so I moved 200 miles away from family and friends to be with him, had children got married etc. it was never really the same I missed my friends and family and it took a while before I made new friends and still now 14 years on I haven't really got the same connection with friends as I had, infact I still stay in touch with the old ones from school etc and meet up fairly regularly. My mum also died of cancer which didn't help. I have my sister and dad still 200 miles away but they don't make a great effort to see me it's all one way.
I split up with my ex 5 years ago now, I decided to stay here as the children were settled in the school had their friends and also I wanted them to see their dad and I just thought the travelling to get them to him would be too much.
I did make a life for myself I have a small amount of friends, my own house my own business which is going well. I had a few disaster relationships which made me feel unsettled but I have met someone nice now, though he lives half an hour away so even that short distance makes it difficult for us to see each other sometimes so I still feel unsettled. I sometimes just feel like packing my bags and leaving go back up were I'm from, sometimes I feel if something happened to me no one would really know. If I fill in a form at the dentist or something they ask for an emergency contact number , there isn't one! If I'm stuck somewhere and can't pick children up or I'm ill or the car breaks down there is no one to help. I did move the children 3 years ago to a different school as I moved to a new town not far down the road so I could afford to buy a house and also the children weren't doing well at the school. They are doing much better now exceeding even, they have friends etc but I haven't really made friends with the mums they don't really speak most of them a few do. It's hard and I sometimes wonder if I should of moved back 'home' with them or whether I did the right thing staying. I just can't get settled? Anyone else done anything simular for their kids?