Explaining to child about absent father

[chowebella]

Hi everyone.

My son is only 8 months old but basically his father has had no involvement and he has stated that he never wants to.

wI know I'm forward thinking but its something that bothers me every single day.

How do you tell your child their father never wanted/wants to know them? I know he's going to one day ask the question and I just worry how that type of news can affect him.

thanks in advance

well father may change his mind later.
you don't tell baby that, you say "I don't know " why he cant/wont see you. you can say generally "some people aren't good at being parents". but you are very happy because he helped make your son.

just support child if he asks; fill his life with other adults who love him.

Different children have different needs. I know some children who ask nothing. I have a son who asks loads of questions. I have to give him the truth but at an age appropriate level. The most important thing for them to understand is it wasn't you as Daddy didn't know you .

U thought this when my DS was small. I could have written your post too. My now 4 and a half year old DS asks about "daddy" sometimes.

I sort of told him mummy doesn't know where daddy lives, but he knows where we are. He's accepted that, and why he asks. He isn't bothered. It certainly doesn't effect him.

As the old saying goes "what you never have, you never miss"