Hello all,
Happy to have found this forum :)
I'll just jump right to the point.
I met my currently ex bf online in 2007.
We hit it off great and soon met in person. He lives
In Sweden, and me in Florida. We are the same age(40).
We both made many trips back and forth to see each other as often
as possible. Then in June 2011 our son was born. We did not really
intend on having kids, but decided to keep our baby. Since a few years
I have tried to persuade my bf to move to join us, but he always had
some excuse why he couldn't. Mainly his job and parents/siblings
who live there. He worries that if he moved here he would barely see
them anymore. I moved to the US 14 years ago (from Europe)to join my sibling/parents
who moved here. Now since my dad died ,it's just my
mom and asperger brother who live here, so if I move
my mom is alone. I felt no longer attracted to my bf so broke
up with him. This was after 2 years, at least, of fading feelings.
Now,my ex has been very upset and trying to get back together.
He has said that if the breakup is permanent, that he does not
want to remain friends, or be part of our son's life, as it would
be very difficult due to the distance and possible new loves.
So, do I ignore my own needs and stay with this man so that
my son sees his father, or do I continue with the breakup?
I'm really quite depressed about this.
Thanks.