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Had enough of ex doing NOTHING

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Advancedtech · 31/07/2014 22:36

I had enough of my exh, 6 years everything has been on his terms, he choose not to see the dc's for nearly the first 3 years after we split and now has them every other Saturday overnight and then the alternative Sunday for the day only!

2 months ago he asked me to change 3 of his days so he and his wife could do some (social) things they wanted to do..... Not problems willingly accommodated this and at the same time ask him to change this weekend and have the kids on Friday day and overnight instead of Saturday as I have a wedding to attend.

So today I call him to make arrangements for dropping kids off tomorrow morning and he tells me he can't have them until 4pm! This is despite me telling him that the wedding was at midday 50 miles away!

I'm fuming, I am the one who accomadates everything, I drop the children to him every week, I change days when he needs me to and in the six years we spilt up he hadn't paid a penny in maintenance despite working full time and leading a good life!

Whst I really want to do is tell him that in future I am not driving the children to his and that he can come pick them up on his days and he needs to hand over maintenance otherwise they are not going..... I'm so tempted, but can I really do this!

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RandomMess · 31/07/2014 22:41

Why doesn't he pay maintenance?

Yes you don't have to do the running around just make them available.

WhatsGoingOnEh · 31/07/2014 22:44

Wouldn't he just think "wahoo! No maintenance payments and no more kids on Saturday nights!" Doesn't sound like he's that bothered about seeing the kids so you'd need a stronger threat. Why not just go through the CSA?

Advancedtech · 01/08/2014 07:15

Been going through CSA for 6 years I have given them all the info if where he works, proof and still nothing received a letter last week saying there is nothing more they can do as it's been going down the legal channel for the last few years

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Advancedtech · 01/08/2014 07:22

I'm just cross, what's going on your totally right he actually wouldn't care, it's so frustrating though

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nomoretether · 01/08/2014 08:43

Have you tried writing to your MP about CSA?

missmeldrew · 01/08/2014 09:15

Mines like this, we havent even got as far as contact yet cause he didnt turn up when it was supposed to start, we were supposed to meet in my town to drop off and his town to pick up, hes now refusing to drive to my town but wants us to meet 10 miles away where neither of us live so I can drop the kids of at the POLICE STATION! What is that about? No way am I dropping them off there, totally unreasonable.
Id refuse the travel by all means. If he wants to see them, he'll travel.

Advancedtech · 01/08/2014 12:27

Nomoretether yes contacted mp and they basically told me they couldn't help!

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