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Urgent - wont bring him back.........................

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lovemykids · 10/09/2006 18:40

Can anyone advise me - sister allowed her xh to have ds for two weeks. She finished with an xp while her ds was away and this xp flipped and caused a scene - police called and he was warned away. Being a responsible (trusting) parent, she asked her xh to keep ds for a few more days so he was not around when police came to interview her etc - he was very obliging etc and then it was his b/day so he asked if he could have him till then as he couldn't bring him home earlier as it was inconvenient. Come time to return him, sister drove an hour to meet half way and he didn't turn up! He left messages at home etc to say he was concerned for ds's safety and he wasn't going to return him! Sister is now in a state as she doesn't know when he is coming back. He is due to start primary school on Wednesday! So if not returned by then all of that will be disrupted too. Police wont do anything because there is no Order in place as they have been fairly amicable to date!

Does she just have to sit and wait for letters to go between solicitors and the courts to award her back her son??? Surely that could take some time?

Please any advice welcome.

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runkid · 10/09/2006 19:11

does your sister have custody if she doesnt i suggest she gets solicitor it will take time especially if he doesnt want to bring him back

runkid · 10/09/2006 19:13

Awful situation i really feel for you all

edam · 10/09/2006 19:15

This is shocking. So sorry, love my kids. Could anyone go along with your sister to her ex's house to collect her ds? The lowlife might find it harder to bully her if she has support and is actually there.

runkid · 10/09/2006 22:00

any news

FluffyCharlotteCorday · 10/09/2006 22:05

I would take a friend and go and collect my child in this situation.

CountTo10 · 10/09/2006 22:19

I would echo the taking a friend to collect him but your sister defo needs to get some legal advice on this straight away. Stating the obvious but I would also say she needs to get a legal agreement in place beyond this point to give her more clout if this ever happened again because without it the police are right in that they can't do anything. God what an awful thing to have to go through she must be beside herself. I hope your sister is holding up ok and it's resolved quickly.

Judy1234 · 11/09/2006 13:40

Go and take the children back. Then get a lawyer to help them both have an agreed parenting arrangement between them relating to their care. Need be no assumption children are with a mother but the arrangements need to be in the child's best interests.

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lovemykids · 11/09/2006 20:12

Thank you all for your much appreciated advice.

She went to her solicitor first thing this morning, who was excellent and rushed things to Court soon after - but to her dismay he had beaten her to it and was in court first thing himself and they gave him a Prohibitive Order preventing her from taking her son away from his father without his consent or another Court Order!! - next court hearing 20th September!! She now has to put another Court Order in place to transfer proceedings to where she lives and hopefully to be brought forward much earlier than the 20th!! In the meantime she has to sit and wait to find out if she will have her son returned to her!

The f'ing w"nker had this all planned and has started his son in school over where he lives etc!! He says all this is in the best interests of the child?????? - how can he think that keeping the boy away from his mother for 3 weeks so far, and starting him at a new school with totally different uniform, friends etc and then (hopefully) reunited with his mother and have 'settling in time', to then start the school he should be attending, with yet another set of uniform and friends could EVER be in the poor little boy's best interests????!!!!

These men need locking up or at least SEVERELY reprimanded! But no doubt he will get away with it because (luckily for him) the incident that happened with her xp was perfect timing for him and gave him the perfect excuse to justify what he had planned!!!!!

Surely the Law is all wrong - how can a Court award a Prohibitive Order without ALL the facts and without the mothers knowledge etc. and how can a non-resident parent be allowed to put his son into a school where he doesn't even live - surely the mothers consent must be needed - the only thing I think of here is that he has told a HUGE amount of lies to all concerned???!!!!

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runkid · 11/09/2006 20:59

Crafty B***D thats what happens in family court secrets and lies. Its an outrage sooner they open it up the better

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