Ex left home a month ago after an incident in which he tried to hit me and tried to stop me leaving the house with our son after this. The police were called and he spent the night in the car then left to go to his sisters the next day. He denies that he tried to hit me and that he has anger issues and depression, despite admitting to it numerous times.
I have said that if he wants to see our son unsupervised, he needs to either get help for his issues and face up to what he did. I would like him to go to anger management classes or to the doctor for his depressions At the moment, he is still in denial and is saying he doesn't have a problem. There are other issues too, he doesn't have a job, is staying at his sisters and is now 100 miles away. Plus, he's not exactly the most reliable and I have a very strong feeling that if he doesnt get a job soon, he will return back to Ireland where he is from originally and then I will be left to pick up the pieces again when his contact with son becomes even more limited.
I know in my heart, I'm doing the right thing because even if he is ok at the moment, his issues are very deep rooted and he really could flip again at any moment. I'm doing this so hopefully, if he admits to his issues and faces up to them, he can have a good and stable relationship with our son.
That still doesn't stop me feeling like a giant bitch when my childminder tells me my son has been saying he misses his daddy. I am doing this for him, and have played devils advocate to check I'm not doing this to get back at ex (which I truly feel I'm not) but there's still the niggly worry fo the damage this may cause our son.