I'm struggling today. DD has new twin siblings and I feel very sad.

[MissWimpyDimple]

More just an outlet than anything else, but today my precious only DD will be sharing an extremely intimate experience with another family.

Her dad has remarried and his wife had twins yesterday. DD has cope well with it but I know she is finding it strange and hard to process.

I don't really know how I feel, other than a bit sick and just very very very sad. The thought of the happy family huddled around the bed (new wife has a child already too) is too much.

I wasn't able to provide this for her. All she has here is me. She is a lovely girl and says that no matter what her dad gives her (they have moved to an amazing house with a pool) that all she wants is to be with me etc. so it's not that I worry about being replaced as such.

I guess it just takes me back to how horrible it was when she was born and how different is now.

Anyway. No response expected but just feel very sad indeed.

((HUGS))

Massive hugs x how old is your daughter?

awww I'm sorry you feel so down about this, but if it's any comfort, I'd feel miserable too in those circs.

HOWEVER, you don't need to feel bad about not having a bigger family for dd, or a pool or whatever. You are dd's mother and that is FAR more important than anything material.

Does your ex pay his fair share of maintence for dd btw? IMO dd should have the same standard of living as if you were still together, and it sounds as if he's doing very nicely indeed.

Take care of yourself. And maybe think of your poor ex and his new wife trying to cope with newborn twins and two older children - it won't be easy all the time, if any!

Another hug. She is lucky that she gets siblings but not all of the time. I had twins and I can tell you my eldest often wishes he was an only child. I think he'd miss them, but he misses me too. This way she gets YOU and some playmates when she goes there. Believe me, she will appreciate the peace, quiet and attention of your place when she comes home!

You sound like an awesome mum, for your daughter to say that. Be kind to yourself, you're not silly for feeling sad.

Ah thanks. Yes I do try and remind myself that it won't be a bed of roses for them!

DD is coming to 8 and yes he does pay for her. (I'm expecting it to drop now that he has more mouths to feed but that's another matter).

It just feels so weird and I don't want my little girl to go with them at all

I know, I know, I do feel for you. BUT as the daughter of divorced parents/blended family I can say that if your dd is anything like me, she will appreciate being your only child. She's the centre of your universe, while her Dad's attention is divided between four of them. Especially with twins, who tend to grab the limelight...

IF you ever did have more, that would be fine too, btw!