Any stories of left pregnant and a happy ending? Do they come back?

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Or were you happy alone?

Yeah loads of support Mme thank you. i am lucky like that xx

I left EXP when 34 weeks. Not the same as being abandoned i know, but i had no choice, he had become addicted to drugs and was being violent.

I let him be present at birth and he visited baby for the first few weeks then disappeared. Didnt hear anything for about 3 years.

I was really happy, just me and my baby. One of the happiest times in my life if i'm honest.

Support network is a valuable thing for if you need a break, someone to babysit so you can get a day/night away from baby.

Yeah an addiction to drugs involved here too. Self medicating for past issues that are ruining his and everyones elses lives. You can't polish a turd I don't suppose :( xx

Ok, the best advice i was given was to just get on with being a mum to my baby. That if someone wants to be a parent, then they'll actually be there doing parenting, not antagonising their child's mother, not saying they want to be there, not ranting about 'the bitch keeping me from my child', not threatening to 'get custody'. If they want to be a parent, they will be doing the donkey work, visiting regularly, building up contact, providing financial support.

You dont need to do anything for him to be involved other than let him. (If safe) otherwise, just get on with your life, dont offer him opportunities but dont withold contact. Time will tell what sort of parent he is without you having to do anything.

Ignore any contact from him that is abusive or threatening or antagonistic.

Yep and its the best revenge on any ex to live and live well

Forget about revenge. It only keeps you angry which isnt a good life. Let go of the anger and decide to be happy. Your anger doesnt injure him, it injures you.

Well I aren't thinking revenge like I said live and live well it cures all

Yes live well, focus on your baby and enjoy it. It should be a happy time.

Yes it should be and its starting to be thank you :)

I left dd1's father when I was pg. It was the day I took the test, and he told me then that he didn't want it. I gave him plenty of chances to step up to be a father, but he didn't want anything to do with us, so I came home to my parents (meaning that he wouldn't be physically able to see her because he's in a different country, but could have kept in contact).

Dd1 is now 14 and she's my happy ending. She's great except when she's being a sulky teenager, and I met dp a few years later and had dd2.

Live your life. Be the best mother you can to your baby. The only thing you should be asking for from him is maintenance.

Thank you for sharing your story all this gives me hopex I am a bit hesitant about maintenance as I think it will just cause more trouble. I just keep thinking I chose to have babhy why should he pay? But then I think how much better off baby would be with that income? Don't know what to do sometimes

I too became a lone parent in pregnancy and did the whole thing alone.
DS's dad wanted me to terminate and I decided to sod him and keep my baby.
My family have been my rock and it makes a huge difference having that support network.
It is hard at times, but better for sure than having DS's dad around. He is a selfish, spiteful man and has had many chances and messed up every time, I told myself I wouldn't give him the chance but did once baby was born and he continues to mess up and so have cut off all ties. My son is a blessing and if he can't see that then it is his loss. Stick to your guns, follow your instinct and be happy.

I said I wouldn't go for maintenance also due to being my decision however I now see that money as money owed to my son and will save every penny once it comes through towards his trust fund.

I felt like that about maintenance initially fools but after 3 years of being skint I thought sod this and went to CSA. I don't get much as ex is self employed tax evader but it helps me afford activities etc for ds. Babies don't need much but children get more expensive the older they get.

Be easier not to due to the abuse I will get but to be honest it will be hard without it. Am just dreading it. xx

Can you just go through the CSA? Do you really have to talk to him and accept abuse?

I will go through csa or cmo as it now is dragon. Still won't stop him though

If you don't chase a man they usually come back. Just in time for you to reject them like they rejected you.

Good point happy everyone keeps telling me it will change when baby is born and he might come around. As much as I still love him I would enjoy telling him where to go!! x

Honestly when my little one's father kicked me out at 16 weeks, I thought my world was over! (The hormones don't help) I used to just shake and cry in my lame little homeless hostel room questioning whether I even wanted my child :( !! She is now nineteen months and I am BLISSFULLY HAPPY :) her biological father has never wanted to know her (and makes ridiculous allegations that she isn't his but refuses a paternity test - you know the type!!) she is the most beautiful, funny little toddler and I have actually cried over the fact I was going to abort her!! :( I'm also studying to be a doctor at a Russell Group University and in the last few months have met the most decent man who cherishes her as much as I do! (That's important) so yep.. Happy Ever After! and you will find yours :) but I wouldn't hope that the father came back for you to get it because if he could leave you whilst pregnant, he doesn't deserve you when you're not!! Be strong, be proud and have lots of rest and time to do things to make you happy! I used to adore making myself up in second and third trimester lol :) you'll have you happy ending when that gorgeous little angel is born and the father not being there just won't matter. Chin up and I hope everything works out for you xxxxxx

PS. you're not alone! you always have your baby with you that's what my sister used to tell me anyway! Have some cake yum yum xx

Thanks. I still miss him for what he used to be but the person he is now is not someone I would entertain at all. I don't hope he comes back. I hope he realises what a mistake he's made when its far too late for him to come back. :) I know thats a bit mean but thats how I feel haha xx

Mine left, came back toward end of pregnancy, left again for a week when DS was 8weeks old, came home then I left when DS was 8 months.

Any feeling turnt to hate, and I only stated because I was scared to be alone. Loved it, mine and DS's bond is much stronger x

my little one's biological father made an attempt to return when she was six months and his engagement with the woman he made me homeless whilst pregnant for had come to an end! Even worse, he only wanted to 'take me out for food and drink to talk' and didn't want my daughter there!!!! ARGH men! It's absolutely shocking! and you are allowed to be mean, don't worry ;) x