Pissed off my dcs miss out

[Onsietwosie]

I've had one of those weeks where I'm feeling sorry for myself and dcs I work pt and dcs are in pre school three days a week but I feel as though their missing out in family fun I am the only lp in their school very small twenty children and I just wish I could do more with them ie take them swimming I just can't do it on my own and it winds me up my babies are suffering bcos their dad doesn't want to help me why do they think it's ok

It's fustrating I know. It does get better though when they are a little older.

Your children are so young right now so they are not actually missing out on a lot, they'll hardly remember anything when they are older so they won't remember what you didn't or couldn't do.

Concetrate on the things you CAN do. I'm sure between us all we can think of a few things for this age and older so you have something to look forward to.

I took mine for their first lessons when they were 10 and 9 so very late starters..don't worry about it.

I don't think that they think it's ok, just more that they choose to ignore it as it's a part of them they don't want to think about or recognise...denial if you want.

IT DOES GET BETTER.

I know it gets better I was just having a down day because I had to work and my friends were taking their dcs and my boys really wanted to go it just felt as though I was letting them down I do however make sure that we do lots of things so they do have fun I have enrolled them into a football club so that's a start but it's amazing that the smallest thing is sometimes what gets to you the most.

Well they say ignorance is bliss I just couldn't do myself.

I am in your boat aswel OP but there are lots of things you can do. Also, i reassure myself i am actually doung my dcs a favour by not taking them to the filthy, revolting, people soup that is our local swimming pool

I have also learned for that my own mental health it is better for me to accept that i can never expect anything from my ex. I used to spend a lot of my time being angry with him for lots of different things he did or didnt do and j realised that i was actually hurting myself. My anger ddnt affect him, he isnt here feeling it, i was. I was holding all that anger and using all that energy and it had NO benefit to anyone for me to be angry. So i decided to let go, just accept that my life is what it is and to make the best of what i have. I am much happier. It really is worth trying.

Also, if you really want to swim with the DC could you ask a friend or family member to come with you?