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Cheap divorce?

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hoolagirl · 03/09/2006 22:42

Is there anyway to get a cheapish divorce when there is a child under 16?
There is no money/access issues.
Or does anyone know roughly how much it would cost?
Im not asking for myself cos im not married

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losingdd · 03/09/2006 22:46

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hoolagirl · 04/09/2006 10:42

Excellent thanks.

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MamaG · 04/09/2006 10:44

Unless an Order is made, a husband and wife will have claims for financial orders against each other, even if they are divorced. i.e. if you got divorced and won the lottery, he would have a claim against it.

Can be done cheapish if finances/children stuff is agreed between you, it gets expensive when you are arguing

MamaG · 04/09/2006 10:44

about who gets the toaster!

Emskilou · 04/09/2006 10:47

Depending on the income your friend they may be eligible for legal aid and therefore could go through a solicitor?? Not sure if this helps

MamaG · 04/09/2006 10:49

LEgal Aid is a loan though, not a gift and if you recover or preserve money/property from the advice given, you have to pay it back, albeit at a lower rate than you would pay a Sol privately.

MamaG · 04/09/2006 10:50

and sometimes you have to make monthly contributions

Emskilou · 04/09/2006 11:42

I read the original post as having said there were no money issues perhaps I misunderstood. Only wanted to offer an alternative to doing it alone as I am going through a divorce at the moment.

MamaG · 04/09/2006 12:04

Emskilou, sorry if I sounded snappy, I didn't mean to! I do this for a living and wanted to make sure she was properly informed - I took "no issues" to mean no arguments, but even if they've agreed finances etc, she would prob still have to pay legal aid back

Emskilou · 04/09/2006 13:02

Oh no dont worry!! I'm just worried I've done it all wrong now!!! Ooops! never mind as long as I am in no way tied (apart from the children which he has not acknowledged for over a year) to my ex pathetic excuse of a husband I don't mind!! Wish I had discovered mn before divorce proceedings!

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hoolagirl · 04/09/2006 15:10

Its for my dp.
His wife left him and their 12 year old son and moved to England. No property (coucil house) and he gets maintenance through the CSA.
There is no access (her choice). If she wanted to see his ds then ds is old enought to say yey or ney really.
Don't think he would get legal aid as he gets the same income as me and I didn't get it for a wee matter i had.
None of us has loads of money but just enough not to get legal aid.
Grounds would be adultery (her part).

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hoolagirl · 04/09/2006 15:14

I thought it would be more complicated because of his DS being under 16.
Is it still ok to use the pack from WH Smith?
Oh it was only a year and a half ago as well.
I really appreciate your advice thanks

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MamaG · 04/09/2006 15:15

hoolagirl, think it might be worth your DP having a free initial interview with a solicitor, you never know, he just might get LA. Defo worth getting a final order though, even if you do the divorce yourselves, I would recommend seeing a Solicitor for the Order.

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hoolagirl · 04/09/2006 15:18

Im going to sound really thick here, but whats an order?
Is that what you lodge at the court?

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MamaG · 04/09/2006 15:24

Basically its a document approved and sealed by the Court which sets out what has been agreed for any money/property/childcare arrangements. It would say that your DP has residence of the child, probably that any property shall stay within the possession of the party it is now in etc - it's like a final, clean break order that your DP would need, so that if you did have some sort of windfall, she couldn't come sniffing around for a share of the pot.

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hoolagirl · 04/09/2006 15:28

Thank you for your help.
Just as well its only me that buys a lottery ticket

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Judy1234 · 04/09/2006 17:52

You can buy some orders on line but best to get a lawyer to look it over. They both have to agree what is on it - like how the assets are being split (if there is any money at all) and if it's a clean break or whether there will be a claim for maintenance say if he or she doubled their income next year, that kind of thing.

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