Do you find you are the 'go to' person when your friends fight with their OH?

[Lioninthesun]

I am wondering if this is just me or a 'thing' LP's get, purely because they are doing it alone?
I've had a grand total of 4 friends drop by over the last week and a half all wanting to talk/in tears about their OH or rapidly becoming XP's.

It's becoming an emotional minefield and, although I'm not complaining, I don't know how much more wine on a week night I can take!

Anyone else find this? I don't mind and if I can help I will. I do have a lot of patience and am glad they see me as a support. I just hope this isn't something that will happen every time every partnered friend I know has an argument, or it could get a bit tedious! Anyone else have this?

No I have the opposite problem. My friends (the ones in shitty relationships) all put a really fake brave face on and pretend everythings ok?

Yes, this happens to me. I think that due to the nature of my split with my ex, people have me ear marked as someone who will understand certain issues (which is true I suppose!)
It's hard though as I feel like sometimes people are asking my advice and almost... I don't know.. my permission.. to leave their partners.
I just try to be honest and give them a balanced view of being a single Mum.
I do get a bit tired of people telling me how easy I make it look etc. because it's not always easy!

Oh I only have one couple I know who haven't admitted to feeling I was better off! Another friend turned up tonight after I wrote this!

Interestingly though, they all leave their DC with the 'partner' to come over, so maybe I wouldn't see as much of them if anything did happen!

X-post Red (made me think of OITNB!)
YES! That is it exactly. I feel like they want me to say LTB! And actually they are a bit put out if I try to tactfully say maybe they were a little emotional or try to take the partners side, hypothetically of course.
I also get the whole "Oh but look at how you do it! If only I didn't have to deal with XYZ, I could do that!" which is lovely but a little insensitive at times. I am also very honest and explain about how when you are sick and no one is able to help you take longer to recover/feelings of guilt and the mere fact they are here alone is something they couldn't do without a lot of planning. I think a lot of them forget the freedom they have as a couple.

Ah Lion, yes I get the whole thing about how much better their life would be but without them taking into account the fact that the only reason they are at my house is because their partner is at home with the children..
I'm always reluctant to say LTB anyway in case they then start and I'm the horrid person who hates their partner

Yes, I try to sit on the fence unless their OH does something truly horrendous. Even then the friend went back (not for long it may seem) so I am quite wary of being at all negative.

I just don't know if this is a phase because we all have toddlers, are tired and dealing with tantrums daily or what. I suppose I am hoping this isn't just going to happen all along.

I have my evening tonight to watch OTNB at least

ha ha I sure do. Lost count of the amount of times my best mate (who is now divorcing her ex) has camped out over night at mine after a row with him.

Since I read this thread one friend approached me about giving her dh an ultimatum, another is potentially having an affair with a friend in common and I've been invited for a weekend away with another friend that I'm fairly sure wants to unload on me about her marriage issues. So yes

I'm not alone!
No wonder people's husbands think we are predatory!