The things you find out after?

[Blakey3166]

I don't know if anyone's experienced this before but my heart feels torn out.
Having a convo today at work about things ppl want retracted from google. The rest is too long to write, but I decided to google a username my ex used to use on Internet;
I found that since 2011 he had adverts on married but fun site- stating married but wanted fun.
I'm heartbroken tonight ( I found out at 3pm)
Our marriage supposedly ended in 2013 because he was putting career before his son am I- nights/days/weekends away with "work" which I had no reason to disbelieve.
He also done a very serious thing at end and had to leave job and forced us back to square one financially.and I had my big doubts over what his version was.
Now this- I feel kicked in teeth that I belived him- that I worked and raced to drop off/collect my son from work whilst he was "away" putting me under strain etc.
I'm gutted.
Any one had this or similar, any words of advice please?

Oh yes! I so regret googling after the break-up. I wish I'd either done it years ago or not at all!

My only advice: Let it go. No point letting it affect your life anymore, it's history and there's nothing you can do to change it. The future is yours! :)

Did you find similar Hun?

Yes, hard though it is you can't keep having them emotionally hit you in the face - you wouldn't let them do it to you so why do it to yourself?
For a while I tied myself in knots finding out he was still working and wondering how he was getting away with fraud, despite CSA telling me I HAD to report him to HMRC. I did and he is still at it. It's not worth the heartache. I always think what a tits-up he is making of his life, possibly without knowing it, by not seeing DD. Possibly the one good thing he did in his life and he is now spending it trying to make her life harder by scheming on how to cut maintenance. His life is full of deceit and lies and he has to trust his new partner completely and never fall out with her or it will all come crashing down.
Who'd want that life? Any career success he has won't make that hard cold heart better.

Well my ex had joined a dating site while we were still "happily" together, apparently he had been there many years already. He claimed to be single, looking for a "serious relationship" and he was using the picture taken on my birthday of which he had cropped me off.
I pity the fool who falls for him!

Elovena - I always wondered why blokes picked those pictures - so clearly take when they are happily smiling next to their ex (or current in your case!), it never made me look twice and I'd always think it quite tactless - just switching over watches type of thing.