I'm pregnant and ex moved on!!

[foolsrushin]

I am absolutely furious. I've heard my ex is with someone else and I'm due to give birth!! He gave me a choice him or the baby. He is totally denying he's with her but I know he is. I know I'm better off without him and he's wished both me and the baby dead and has said he wants nothing to do with us. Am I crazy to be like this? I am so angry!!!

Fuck him and his new gf.

Firstly what a wanker for the ultimatum.
Secondly, I raised my lovely 18 year old by my self - no help from cunt face and she is awesome

You shouldn't be arsed about a blue that gave you that ultimatum, honestly let her have him. He is a prick.

Make sure he pays his way though.have you worked the CM out?

If your feeling hurt, did you expect you and him to get back together

Bloke!

Why are you angry? you're well rid. Wish her good luck and get in with your own life.

Oh no I do still love him, it was a long relationship but could never trust him again. Loads to the story involving dating sites and not the run of the mill ones either. You know the kinds of ones that prostitutes advertise on? And he was heavily involved in drugs so it was always doomed its all the disillusionment that hurts I'm sat here wondering how much of the relationship was a lie. You can bet your bottom dollar she doesn't know the truth though. I am FURIOUS!!!!!

Your not crazy to feel like this. It's entirely normal.

But you need to move on and think about you and your baby.

He may come around, or not. Right now the important thing that you should be thinking about is your baby.

Don't waste time wondering what his up to, whose he with.

You'll be ok.

Foolsrushin

There's no point thinking about your whether your relationship was a lie or not. Who cares. Seriously, why waste your time thinking about someone when he clearly isn't thinking about you.

You say that and I know you're right but it's easier said thdn done. I'm so cross with him for doing such a shitty thing when he abandoned us. Yes I am bitter and will be for a while I would never take him back but it doesn't stop it hurting

I know that hurt ! But it will fade !

Hey my first time on here don't know if I'm correct thread but here goes , I was in a long distant relationship for 18months we both travelled to see each other , he lives in London me near manchester. 2 weeks ago he decided to end it as he said he wanted to be there for his children as when he up north he felt guilty , only took him 18months to decide this, I have 2 children already and found out last week I'm 8wks pregnant!!! he want me to have an abortion I'm all over the place as expected. He said he doesn't know if he would be in the babies life if I have him/her, feel so confused and hurt and don't know what to do for the best , please help if can , xxxx

Oh whalley

You have to do what's right for you. What is your gut feeling?

My gut is too keep it , but then I start thinking how hard it will be with a new born on my own again ! and I know I shouldn't but I'm frightened of what people will think . I just don't understand why he being like that when we had dreams and plans to move in together , now he's being so harsh like I never mattered to him . I'm not sure if he's being nasty so it makes me think I can't cope or wether he scared himself . It's one big mess !!

You do whats best for you hun but do not have an abortion in the hope he will come back. I was abandoned too and agonised for weeks even when it was getting too late. You we be up and down all the time just do whats best for you and take him completely out of the equation when you are making that decision. If he came back could you trust him to stick around anyway??

HUGS xx

To my mind you don't have to consider his feelings once he's done something like that. These men should stand by us to help make the decision together relationship or no relationship xx

He has said numerous of times that me having this baby won't get us back together but he would visit us from time to time if I had an abortion !!...... Yes your read that right !! cheeky eh ! the fact that he's 280 miles away makes it even harder as we can't just easily meet up and discuss it , we had made plans to meet this Sunday this morning now he seems to be backing off again ! I know it's my decision and your right he should be supporting me , I know we won't get back together and I'm over that I just want what's best xxxx

I wouldn't meet him again!! It takes 2 to make a baby and initially I tried to save my relationship but that soon faded when he started accusing me of trapping him and now its got so nasty I'm at the love/hate stage. Its going to be sooo tough for you hun. I know I'm 12 weeks in but it will get better. Take him out of the equation in your head and decide if YOU want a baby. xxxx

Meant to say he is emotionally blackmailing you by saying I'll see you from time to time if you have an abortion!! He's pond life xx

I was expecting the trapping comment but because he had already ended it before we found out he couldn't , all he seems bothered about is himself and how it will effect him, well no more !! Your right I do want this baby and he doesn't deserve any of us !! His loss!! It's going to to tough as you say but I've already got a 12yr old and a 6 yr old and I've managed just fine !! hope your ok your ex sounds like a complete jerk ! congratulations on getting to 12 Wks without having a breakdown ! lol and thankyou xxxxxx

Oh ya welcome hun my ex is just the same. I've not long to go now but its 12 weeks since I've seen him. He's still saying I planned it but admits he gave me an ultimatum and is sticking to it. Thats hard for me to swallow. Makes me wonder how much of my relationship was a joke to him we were together a long time. Message me anytime if you want a chat xxxxx

You put your trust and love into somebody , just as I did . We aren't the fools for loving them they are the fools for letting us go! hope all goes well with the birth , stay strong , and thank you , likewise here to listen and chat , it really has helped me getting an outsiders opinion . xxxxxx