Anyone ever wanted to write an open letter

[Blakey3166]

Hi all,

Anyone ever felt like they wanted to write an open letter for everyone to see to their ex - exposing them for the twats they really are- and to show everyone their not the great guy they really are?
I find myself really having to brace myself against letting it all out on Facebook or somewhere for all to see!!

Nope never been tempted. The people who matter to me know the truth and the people who don't know the truth don't matter.

I personally think there is a element of dignity in keeping your private life private. Even if you do air it out in public, you will still find that not everyone believes you. And even if they do, many just don't care enough to ostracise your ex from their social circle IYSWIM.

I always cringe when I see a public rant like that. Sorry.

Write it by all means, it may make you feel better. Just don't post/send it. Not only because it will make you look like a bitter old shrew but it will pave the way for him to do the same. So then you've got two people on facebook laying out every fault and complaint for the rest of the world to see and it'll be an ugly mess. And there will be no coming back from it, all that shite will be out there forever, yours as well as his. It won't make people think he's the bad guy if you strike first, at best people will think he's as bad as you, because these things tend to backfire very badly.

If someone posted a ton of crap about one of my friends, my first thought wouldn't be to view him negatively, but the person who posted it. So my advice is write it on paper and then burn it.

I write letters to my son. He's 6.5. Parenting him by myself is sometimes hard.

I know how it can be to grow up seeing "decisions" that your own parents made which, looking back, were not always the right decisions - but you can't turn back the past.

I write them once a year on his birthday or when we're going through a difficult time so that I can tell him about what's going on and the choices that I have to make.

I'm putting off writing one about his dad, but need to soon. I'm going to include pictures and other things that I have and put them in an envelope together so that "The Envelope" can be referred to at a later date (when he wants to find him).

Putting pen to paper is often therapeutic. Why not write it all down and then either put it in a safe place so that you can look back later and have that "so that's why I was so cross" feeling - or burn it and say to yourself - "These are my feelings, my anger, my frustrations" and let them go (damn that song!)

I agree with you all ladies: that's why I said I'd love to - but know I can't.
It's such a shame though.my ex has done a great job in duping me the past ten years over some pretty serious big things- an everyone thinks he's such a great guy.
He's especially a poor parent and I realise now, it was me making him into a great parent- left to his devices, his job is now more important and image .
Hey ho, I'll live to fight another day !

My ex did!! Posted it all over fb! It got a few likes, , none of the cretins knew me so their opinions were irrelevant. Sad thing was, my eldest read it too. How cruel.

Yes but I haven't because I wouldn't want the children to read it.
My oldest is 13 and has sussed out that my parenting made his Dad seem like a good guy. Ex views parenting as something that will turn out fine if you throw money into it (like a pension or mortgage) so thinks he's fab. Even our youngest who is 7 realises that his Dad doesn't even know his best friend's name or favourite meal because he's not interested in that sort of detail.

I feel sad that they know their Dad isn't the hero that they thought and O wouldn't want them to know exactly how shit he is.

Agree with the person who said don't put it on fb. There's an argument on my wall where an ex couple is arguing about oral sex and it's really undignified putting it all online.