My ex husband stole our son's birth certificate

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Hi. I'm hoping someone can give me some advice on this. Is my ex husband stealing my son's birth certificate tantamount to identity theft?

We've been divorced for four years. He was violently, mentally, emotionally and verbally abusive to my three children from my previous relationship and more recently to our own son.

He has narcissistically abused me for years. He gaslighted me too. He took the birth certificate when we separated and got back into the house and removed a lot of my personal effects as well as his own, including my scan pictures of our son (why do they do this? My eldest children's father, also violent, did the same.) and his birth certificate. I got it back from him briefly as the child benefit agency requested it due to someone else trying to make a claim for my son so I had to prove he was mine. Upon it's return and because I'm the parent with care and it should be with me, I put it in my safe place. Now my ex, being what he is, when at my home frequented my bedroom to use the en suite. It was after this that I went to find the birth certificate to open my son a bank account as I do not have access to his baby bond account (in ex's sole name) to find the birth certificate was gone. He'd gone through my things and stolen it again. I know it's a control thing in an attempt to keep me in contact with him when I don't want to be. So I'm cutting him out of the equation now. But what bothers me is that he either has or may try to obtain a passport for my son without my consent. My ex has a partner who he has already tried to pass off as me when I fled to a refuge to escape him last year and he tried to get information as to where I had gone through the council. It bothers me that he may do the same to obtain a passport. If he already has, what can I do about it? Thanks

Just get a new one?
Even if he returned that copy, he could get a new copy from the registry office.

If you are concerned about a passport, call the Passport Office and register that there is a dispute and no passport should be issued without your authority (they will be used to this).

Do you have a residence order? If so tell the Passport Office this. They may insist on there being an order.

You could also apply for a passport yourself - your child can only have one.

Anybody can apply for anyone's birth certificate so he could have just got one anyway. You can get another copy from the registry office.

It sounds like he might be trying to intimidate you.

Like Patricia says up you can contact the passport office and ask them not to issue a passport but it's been on the news that they are really busy so it might take some time.

You could get your baby a passport in the ordinary way using the new birth certificate from the registry office. You will have to never tell him and hide it in a really good place!

My Dad was a family court magistrate for many years. When it all began to unpleasant with my Ex he advised me to remove mine and DD's passports, birth certificates and EHICs from the house. He suggested I locked them in my safe at work. He saw this level of power play happen time and time again.

Is there any reason at all for him to step foot across your threshold now the split is four years old? Frankly in your shoes I just wouldn't allow him in my home again at this point. He no longer has any reason to be there. No arguments, just change the locks and if he has to see his child for contact he can collect him from a neutral public location.

The children's section of the local library is good as they are naturally nice quiet calm places where you can easily keep kids occupied if the other party decides to be fashionably late.

The passport agency have seen it all before and any games he intends to play can be nipped in the bud with a quick phone call. Deny him the satisfaction of yet another game and just get a replacement certificate and keep it at your Mum's or a sensible trusted friends or at work as suggested above.

Clear boundary setting on your part and a complete refusal to rise to his bait is the only way to stop his power games.

My ex took ds's birth certificate, then lied about it. I don't know what he did with it but I had already applied for child benefit by then so he wouldn't have received any benefits. He doesn't see ds so wouldn't be able to get hold of a picture for a passport. It's worrying though. A Lonecat says, it's a power thing. I hope you're OK.

He stole DD's birth certificate. I had it paced in a neat folder along with my own, her sisters, and our marriage certificate. He returned the folder to me minus the marriage certificate and youngest dad's birth certificate.
Cunt lied to dd saying he was advised to 'keep hold' of her birth certificate. I couldn't care less what he does with the marriage certificate. It clearly still means something to him for him to keep it after he broke every vow.
Before that hed told her 'I'll give it back when you live with mum ful time' obviously believing that his twisted ways meant she'd never be back with me.

I am her mother. I carried her for 9 months + a few days. I gave birth to her. I reared her whilst supporting his going off 6 days of 7 to better his career. I sacrificed my own career for this. I have hsd possession of both daughters' birth certificates since I registered their births when they were born. How do I get it back? It's the origi😭