Really need MN help

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I'm regular MNer but have named changed to keep myself hidden!

So from the beginning not to drip feed, DD is 3 and he father was never been interested until recently. He was too busy having another family to be bothered. Hes not named on the birth certificate amd has had very little contact.
He has had 3 and a half sessions (7 hours) in a contact centre which we set up ourselves.
DD hated it, didn't want to see him and her behaviour became awful. She began having random outbursts of 'I dont want to see daddy' several times a day and has woken up shouting it. That combined with his idea of 'regular' contact being upto 6 weeks apart I made the decision to cancel the visits.
Its now been 9 weeks since the last visit and he has today declared he wants parental rights and wants visits back.
What exactly can he do?
I wouldn't be eligible for legal aid (I believe you cant get it anymore for family cases if no DV involved? ) so getting answers is difficult.
Any advice would be great

You should maybe post this in 'legal' as there are several lawyers who post on there and they should be able to give you the info you're seeking.

AFAIK firstly he would have to prove paternity - so demand a blood test - then he could have her birth cert amended to include his name and then he could petition for access via the court (if you do nothing to encourage him or facilitate contact, that is). Do you think he'd go to all that expense and trouble?

He has asked me to go to meditation at a cost of £150 which I dont have.
He has said if I dont agree he'll take it further.
I dont know what further is???

We had DNA through the CSA about 2 years ago.
I honestly dont know. Hes always been all talk but its the 'ill do this if you dont do that' that scares me

Given his disinterest up to now I'd be inclined to do nothing and see what, if anything, he does. But that's just me - I think people are generally lazy and someone who has spent precisely 7 hours with their DC in over three years is unlikely to expend a huge amount of energy trying to build a relationship. It sounds more like he's just trying to put the wind up you. Is he having trouble in his other r'ship by any chance?

Its hard to tell to be honest. He has turned to insults now so I shall just let him get on with it.
Thanks for your replies

Good call - I'd ignore him too. I wonder what he hopes the insults will achieve?

3 year olds can be upset when contact starts with a previously absent parent because they are confused about their parentage and identity. Sometimes professional help is required to help the children understand what is going on through art and play.

You asked what exactly what the father could do. If no agreement can be reached he could apply to court for Parental Responsibility and contact and if you can't afford a lawyer you may need to represent yourself in court.