Constantly feel guilty :(

[Haily111]

Noone ever tells you when you have children you always feel guilty! I am a new mom (well for the last 13 weeks) and still don't seem to be able to control my guilt feeling.

When i changed my dd from breast to bottle she got constipation, god i felt guilty!
When i make myself a cuppa, when she has been crying, to make me feel better, I feel guilty for leaving her for two seconds.

And last night i went to the cinema with a friend for the first time. My mom looked after my dd, but i felt so guilty for leaving her.

Will this ever get better?

I am supposed to be going back to work 3 days a week next January and i just don't think i am going to cope

I am utterly convinced that the last thing a baby does as it leaves the womb is flick the guilt switch on!
It doesn't go away but it is manageable (and perfectly normal). Congratulations on the arrival of your little one!

It does pass off a bit. My daughter's nearly 22. In fact parents who manage best are those who feel they've done a good enough job at work at home but don't feel they need to do a perfect job - they do best as "satisficers", satisfied with a reasonable % done of what should be. Try to be in that category. I found it easier to leave babies the older they got. Also if you go out for a night it does you and the baby good because the mother feels happier which is better for the baby.

I agree with you 'YeahBut'

I shall try and be one of them. I just never took into consideration that i would feel like this. I thought i would enjoy a bit of 'me' time (if that doesn't sound selfish!!)