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Should I say something? Or be worried?

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giantpurplepeopleeater · 19/05/2014 09:35

DS is 3. Ex and I have been split since he was a few months old. Ex and I are amicable, even to the point of being quite friendly.

He is with another woman who has a child the same age as my DS. He has been with her a little under a year - about 9 or 10 months. In December, he decided to have his weekends with DS at her house and has all but moved in with her. I tried to ask ex to slow down and think of DS, but he felt this was the right thing to do so I shut up. We all get along though. I like her, and her little daughter is wonderful. I would probably go so far as to say I like her more than I like ex!!

(not sure if this is relevant but don't want to be accused of drip feeding: Recently ex dropped a hint that his GF might be pregnant, so I asked him outright, thinking I might have to prepare DS, his response was 'not yet')

So here is the nub of the issue..........

DS and I are going on holiday for a week to France. It has been booked since end of Jan and cleared with Ex. A few days ago, while talking about it on the phone, we agreed that Ex would have DS for the week after we get back from holiday, as EX will be off work. He also informed me that while we are away, he is going away on his family holiday with GF and her daughter - apparently they are planning this, and have not yet booked it.

I didn't think anything of it until just now - Ex is taking his family holiday without DS.

Should I be worried that Ex is trying to push DS out in favour of a new little family?

Should I say something?

Would you be concerned if your ex was planning a holiday family without your DC?

I'm really not sure if I should be bothered about this or not?

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sezamcgregor · 19/05/2014 10:13

I don't know if I'd want my child with his dad while he went away for a week long bonk-a-thon with his new partner.

They've obviously planned it so that you can both be away at the same time and not for the reason that he's leaving DS out - infact, as you've said, they're having him for the weekend when you get back.

giantpurplepeopleeater · 19/05/2014 11:06

I'm not convinced it's a bonk-a-thon they have in mind though sezamcgregor. They are taking her daughter with them.

It wasn't so much the time - given he is spending the week with them on our return, more that they are planning a family get away without him.

But like I've said, I can't quite figure out whether this is such a bad thing or not?

He's too young to notice I guess... but as he gets older won't it be upsetting to find his Dad has gone on holiday with his step sister but not him. But then I guess she doesn't get to come on holiday with us, so does that negate the whole thing?

I wasn't bothered in the slightest, till it struck me that DS wasn't included in a family holiday, and I felt a little sorry for him.

Does anyone else have experience of this?

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cestlavielife · 19/05/2014 12:09

just leave it - there will always be things one child does the other doesn't...

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