Going on holiday next week - need some perspective

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I booked to go on holiday on my own and DS(6), we did it last year and it was brilliant. Another single mum friend (good friend who we have been on holiday with several times) also asked if they could join us, her DS is also 6. Yeah, no problem, I compromised on hotel to meet her budget, but it is still a good hotel, just not exactly where I wanted to stay. We booked 9 months ago.

In the meantime she meets a bloke with DS (8)and they start living together a few months later. She mentions that he's now going on holiday at the same time as us (half term) and he's looking at a similar destination. He then books a sister hotel to ours 10 minutes away. She is now travelling to airport with him, staying overnight at airport with him. And saying that we can eat at his hotel (we are going h/b). He can't use our hotel as it slightly higher grading.

Now I am feeling a bit put out with this, as we were good enough to share time with her when she was single.... and we would have shared hotels, travelled together etc.

I am also bothered that they go off to other hotel leaving my DS on his own, when he had planned on playing with her DS. Although I know my DS will make his own friends.

Now tell me to get over it, and ignore. I just wish she had cancelled ..... I did suggest this to her, so they could go as a family, but she oh no its our holiday she said.... yeah right.

I have been looking forward to this for months, and now I am near crying as I just think it is going to be stressful. I think I am just feeling used right now. Hopefully I will feel better after wise words of MN.

I think you have a right to feel annoyed. have you asked her I'd she intends on spending it with him or him tagging along with you? if you don't want that then I'd say so. nicely but just that you wanted a holiday with them.

I think I do need it out in the open before we go, but as I am upset I don't feel I can discuss it without being upset. She is lovely, I just feel I have been dumped and worried I am going to feel like a gooseberry on my own holiday.

I'd tell her that you enjoy your single mum holidays but although you think it's great that she's met somebody new - that you go on holiday with her because you have someone else to be single with and it takes the pressure off feeling like you should have a Dad with your little family of 2.

I'd then either plan to go on my own in future or get a replacement single mum for holidays.

I don't get with your OP the jump from having the holiday booked for the two of you with your two children - and then that she's booked with her new bf and gone to a more expensive hotel.

I've learned not to go on holiday with other people because I'm too used to my own company and know what I like and what I'm like. I'm going way this year with a grown up friend who hasn't got children - we're going to Legoland - so hopefully that will be fun rather than stressful!

I'd be worried she may be hoping to use you as some kind of part time baby sitter for the odd hour... I'd check that that isn't on the cards unless they reciprocate. I.e you could supervise them on the beach for an hour or two if they look after your DC for the same time when you need it. Not ideal but think about how it may work for you instead, no point fearing for the worst if you are going to talk about it first.