how do you cheer yourself up ?!

[misstiredbuthappy]

Feeling a bit fed up. Got nothing to look forward to, im skint everybody seems to be out buying what they like and im counting down the days to payday :(. Im just getting over bieng not well so im tired to wich doesnt help.

Everything just seems the same from day to day. Anybody else get like this ? I know im bieng daft and need to snap out of it. But how ?

Oh and to piss me of more dds "dad" is going on his third holiday this year next week. Hes paying for his girlfriend too. This is the man that hasnt and wont ever pay a penny towards dd because hes too skint ! [Angry]

I think we all get like that from time to time. Do you have a friend of family you could stay with for a night or two for a change of scenery and some adult company wine?

With regards to your ex, I know it's hard but try not to get hung up on what he is spending his money on, I learnt early on that it's something I have no control over and to just let it go, my ex works cash in hand so CMS is no use to me and my DD. Have you contacted CMS (new CSA)? If not do it.

Hello miss, just to say I feel like this sometimes too. I'm in awe of lone parents...must be v tough.

I second going to visit family. Or failing that try & break the monotony!! For example I got soooo bored of the mealtime fights so I just decided we were having a picnic one tea time & took dinner outside into the garden - I felt better, ds enjoyed it & it was just lovely to do something different.

I also find that ds will do something that just fills me with happiness & that does away with any feelings of being ground down
Finally, what about getting into a project fir yourself in the evenings of whatever when the dc are in bed? Something crafty, a quilt or a sewing project, knitting? Easily put down and picked up when you have time!

Good luck, keep your chin up because you sound like you're doing an amazing job whilst your xdh behaves like a child. Man child strikes again. Tools

I feel exact the same as you, I am feeling pretty miserable at the moment

With regards to the ex, have you gone to the Csa. I am also very frustrated with my ex as I feel like he doesn't take any responsibility.

I am trying to find activities to do with my dd like bike riding.

Hope you find something nice to do over the weekend, I know going out walking to the park and me reading a book often helps calm me down. Xx

I think it has been the month for it tbh. I've been on here ranting away like a madwoman, all of my friends are calling in the evenings doing the same. Don't worry, the sun is starting to make more of an appearance and then it will feel like anything is possible again.
Hope you are feeling better - was it the chest infection thing with dizzy spells? Horrid! Once you recover you'll be amazed there was a time you thought you would never feel well again.

Free trials of netflix etc, finding blogs of things to do with the children helps. Even if it is just sticking pasta onto pieces of paper and painting them or making pasta necklaces (we have lots of pasta in the house)

No nowhere I could stay easy went to my mums for the day had dinner and tea there cheered me up a bit and she had bought dd loads of summer clothes witch was realy nice of her.

No lion ive had a couple of kidney infections as soon as I got rid of one it came backwith a vengance. Feel loads better now though thank you.

Thank you everyone feel silly moaning, things just get to you sometimes dont they. It doesnt normaly bother me what my ex does but because of the way ive been feeling everything pisses you of doesnt it haha! Ive never had anythink from him so I cant miss what ive never had.

I feel exactly the same at times. I find the comfort of the family helps a lot. They live at least an hour and half drive away but it's worth the drive.

Just let vent on here and we can wallow for a while and then pick each other up.

What about looking at what you could sell at a car boot or eBay. Set yourself a challenge and see if you can achieve it.

Thanks wow yes it feels good to vent depress everyone with my moaning

I should sell some stuff on ebay instead of buying sold a few garden toys last summer they sold as soon as I put the pics up :)

Hugs, it's not easy and especially with your ex, you're bound to feel negative about that. I used to, but just detach from that now, as it's bad for your emotional health. Making time for family/friends is the opposite, really good for you. Having clear outs, Ebay and carboots, they are fab too.

It is harder, I think, because on here so many people have been through similar experiences it brings it all bad. No matter how well I feel I am functioning in RL if I come on here and see a thread about a dad who doesn't give a monkeys and is giving the CSA the run around I dredge up all of my memories to try to help OP. I like feeling I can help of advise people going though bad times, even if it is just to say you will survive! It gets me back into the mindset, which is a bad one, of feeling angry at ex men in general. If this is happening and not helping you feel better, have a break from MN, or limit yourself to funny threads. I always find I go away for a few months and get drawn back in. I started posting on here again this time because DD was asking for her daddy and a grandma, but she has stopped now, thankfully!

Now the weather is picking up hopefully the cheaper activities will be keeping us all busy. Hope you got around do doing some ebay/carboot de-cluttering OP?

Just to say I'm totally in same boat- I also noticed I started to shut myself away from everyone who was enjoying themselves.i also felt my parents were always assisting my brother and sister with their kids and not mine.
I managed to break out of it recently- I think I had lost my identity and didn't feel as a single mum I fitted into any of my family life and friends.
Thankfully a light pinged on in my head and I feel a lot better- the arguments with ex dh are lessening too and I've also started to realise that I needed to stop basing my happiness/unhappiness on how he was treating me.
I'm exactly the same, living pay day to pay day, no room for fun in that money! I just now live in hope that each month, each year, things will get easier xx