Ex wants his girlfriend to look after the kids at half term

[Sam1973]

My ex has been seeing his girlfriend for about 5 months. ive met her she seems lovely and my kids like her and her kids.

She has offered to look after my 2 in the 2nd week of the school holidays as she is off work with her son anyway. ( I work and so does my ex)

I have really mixed feelings, while I trust my ex's judgement and as I said she seems really nice, I don't actually know her that well.

If I say yes im thinking it will have to be at my ex's house so he will be there at night time, or they will have to come home in the evening.

I don't know what the right thing to do is, should I say yes and thank you very much, or say no thank you????

any advice gratefully received...

Well ex knows her and you trust his judgement so why is it a problem that you dont know her that well?

I think it sounds really sensible and you have at least met her and know she seems nice. I would let her.

I suppose the question is why wouldn't you? Personally, I'd bite someone's hand off if they were offering to provide (presumably free) childcare unless they were an evil axe murderer.

The dcs know and like her. I would rip her arm off tbh and be generous with contributions for days out etc.

I think that sounds fine. They are his children too, he must know the way she parents and is happy to leave them with her. Sounds sensible to me

Thanks everyone, feel better now. I just wasn't sure if I would be doing right thing because they haven't been together that long.

Well i didnt know either of my CMers or any of the nursery staff that cared for my dcs before i brought my dcs to be cared for. You have the advantage of the only other person in the world who cares as much about your dcs as you do in a relationship with your children's prospective carer.

if your dcs are happy with this then it's a good idea, they'd be with someone they know, like and have other kids to play with. It would be free and would be better for them than sending them to strangers for child care :)

I've just text him and said yes as long as they stay at his house so I know where they are

Not that I'm an over protective mother or anything hahaha