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I know another one of those DH is leaving me........

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horsecrazy · 29/08/2006 00:07

I know, I know everyone has heard it all before......but when it happens to you it hurts so bad...........my DH has just turned round and said he is leaving me and our four children as he doesnt love me anymore. We are going through a tough patch with neighbours and money (so who isnt?) and he is copping out than trying to sort things out.............What a... C.U.N(ext).T(uesday) huh

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moondog · 29/08/2006 08:41

HC,you poor love.

What an absolute shit he sounds.

CheesyFeet · 29/08/2006 08:49

so sorry horsecrazy

He sounds like a total wanker.

Judy1234 · 29/08/2006 09:01

One option is to insist he has the children 50% of the time right from the start to make things fair right from the start.

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horsecrazy · 30/08/2006 02:34

well he left me today......I found out from a neighbour...can you believe it.....that he had been planning it for over a week and is now at his mothers (no chance of getting him back now as the evil one has him in her clutches) aparently everyone else knew he was leaving before me.......

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arfishymeau · 30/08/2006 03:07

HC, I'm so sorry

How are you?

Alibaldi · 30/08/2006 03:40

I've just seen this - I'm so sorry. I'm here if you need to chat alison dot smits at btinternet dot com. Please take care. Sending hugs.

ggglimpopo · 30/08/2006 07:18

Message withdrawn

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horsecrazy · 31/08/2006 00:00

well today was really hard, but I coped.......he and his mum did some nasty things to me today....and when he came to pick up the rest of his stuff I asked him why he was leaving and he shouted out to he whole neighbourhood that he did not love me anymore..........

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Janos · 31/08/2006 20:13

Hey, sorry to hear that horsecrazy. It does hurt doesn't it.

I'm up for a good rant about exes in general if you need one ;)

Kelly1978 · 31/08/2006 20:16

oh how crap horsecrazy I'm really sorry to hear this. He really sounds a first class twat and you are gonna be better off without him. I've done single parenthood and it isn't all bad.

benbenandme · 02/09/2006 21:38

So sorry so hear what you're going through ... i know exactly how it feels, my ex did the same thing to me 13 months ago. We'd decided to try for another baby when ds was 2 and 3 days before his birthday ex came home from work, announced he didn't love me and was leaving. He moved in with another girl from work (we both work at same place) the same week and they're still together.
There's nothing anyone can say or do to make you feel better ... I know that probably doesn't help but its true.
Don't try and make major decisions just yet, you need to let it all sink in and just concentrate on getting through the next few weeks and looking after yourself and the kids.
Please keep checking in here regularly, I found the people on here so kind and caring ... it does get easier but its hell on earth for a while.
For me it honestly felt like he'd died, in fact that may have been easier because I wouldn't have been hurt as well as destroyed! I still love him, I think I alwaya will - hes the father of my son and he meant the world to me. The best thing anyone said to me was "don't pressure yourself to get over it and move on ... you'll learn to live with it but you'll never fully get over it" and for me thats so true.
I still have bad days but overall its getting better ... and ultimately I have ds and I wouldn't give that up for the world!!
Please take care and keep posting on here

expatinscotland · 02/09/2006 21:42

'he and his mum did some nasty things to me today....and when he came to pick up the rest of his stuff I asked him why he was leaving and he shouted out to he whole neighbourhood that he did not love me anymore.......... '

Wow! What a nice thing to do to the mother of your kids.

I have to agree w/GGG here.

His mum sounds like a prize catch. What a terrific person, manipulating her adult children against their own spouses.

I hate to say it and I know it hurts, but your best rid of a toxic in-law like this.

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