What have i done wrong?

[oddity2001]

I am a father i am separated from my wife of nearly 10 years we separated after she assaulted me i reacted resulted in me spending the weekend locked up (you have love the scottish legal system).

We have two boys. The eldest is 24 months old. I am permitted contact with him twice per week since January. This has been going excellent we are really bonding and he just lights up when he sees me. At the end of each contact session i have to submit a report via solicitors to my wife indicating how the contact went, activities etc

We had a child welfare hearing today where my "wife" out of the blue stated that i am a bad parent and i was never there for my son before we separated. I have copious amounts of photos and have friends, families and colleagues that disagree with her accusations. Yet the Sherriff has decided that an independent psychologist needs to assess my parenting skills!!. Contact is to resume under supervision until he or she can report back to court. My "wife" cannot provide any evidence to back up these accusations yet i have to endure this.

Our second child is now aged 10 weeks. She has NEVER allowed me to see him, not even a photograph. I only found out of his birth when a colleague who works in the maternity hospital congratulated me!!

I am unable to get a court order to see my youngest due to the age of the child. Supervised contact arrangements need to be put in place, which requires her co-operation. At the last welfare hearing the sherriff ordered her to provide me with atleast a photo of my youngest, she has not done so. This has been pointed out to the sherriff who just ignored it.

I want to play a part in my childrens life. Regarding maintenance i pay £1800 per month in maintenance in addition to giving her the house with ALL bills paid. Seemingly this is not enough.

What have i done wrong? where am i going wrong that i am not allowed to see my children?

My "wife" had me locked up for domestic assault, then rape, then attempted murder. ALL charges were disproven. I have NOT been covicted on any crimes, yet what see tells the court seems to carry more weight over what i say.

I apologise for the long post. I needed to get this out of me. It is driving me crazy.

Dnt now system in scotland bu Stay calm and keep playing the system, do what is asked. Calmly keep telling court the truth. Keep up the sessions with your oldest.

I assume you have a solicitor? Can they give advice on how best to navigate such a horrible set of circumstances? There is a helpline in Edinburgh that may help too if you need a second opinion. They have family lawyers taking calls & advice is free. Can't remember exact name of it - child law centre or children's law or something. If you can't find it then message me & I'll look it out.
Very difficult situation for you but I guess, given the accusations against you, there are child protection issues. Probably of scant comfort to you, of course, but the system is there to protect the children esp when so tiny. I suspect you have no choice but to stick to all rules & be seen to do everything you are asked.