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Man-free life?

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Pushkinbear · 02/05/2014 22:07

Hi all, newbie on mumsnet, looking for experiences on whether you can ever have male friends again once you're single!

All my previous male friends (whether single, attached or married) aren't interested in me now unless I'll sleep with them. Dating sites I've tried are full of men only interested in that too. Do you have to give up on platonic relationships with the opposite sex once you're single?

Are there men out there who only want friendship at first, or are they all just after sex quickly? I want to rebuild male friendships now I'm single, and won't jump into bed with somebody I barely know for fear that otherwise he'll never speak to me again. Anyone feel similarly?

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whitedoorbell · 02/05/2014 23:26

pushkin I don't know what to say except that I think many of ua ladies will agree that it can seem like the majority of men are only after 1 thing.

don't let it get you down. There are plenty of decent men about who want friendship. .. I think they are just being drowned out by all the chancers and idiots Grin

SolidGoldBrass · 03/05/2014 00:10

Are you stunning? I have found, over the years, that lots of men have wanted to be 'just friends' with me when I would have preferred to leap all over them... But it is true that there are plenty of men who are perfectly capable of being friends with a woman if they like her but do not fancy her.

UncrushedParsley · 03/05/2014 20:33

I met DP Online. He We waited about two months before we had a proper snog and then went on to have sexy times He just wanted to have some kind of old-fashioned getting to know me time. I was wondering what I was going to have to do by that time cobwebs . Fear not OP, they are out there. And yes, it all worked out fine!

equinox · 11/05/2014 11:03

I can safely say it IS possible to have single male friends as just friends although some of them would like to take it further.

If you do take it further then it doesn't work out it can sometimes be hard to remain just friends after although there is one of my male friends like this. We can both cope with it as friendship only now.

If you don't talk about being a single parent then it doesn't sound as if you are desperate as unfortunately there is an assumption in society that if we are single parents then we must be gagging for some action if we are one. I have no idea where this misguided notion comes from and it really sucks but this simply isn't the case for most single women I know who are single parents. Most of them are put off at the very thought of having a boyfriend for a considerable time! A lot prefer to remain single after....

I would like a boyfriend but am by no means desperate and prefer to remain choosy as I don't wish to make any more mistakes.....!

RussianBlu · 11/05/2014 18:24

Your previous male friends sound rather odd in that case. Why are you so keen to have male friends?

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