Separated from partner who now wants access to kids

[noorqt]

Hi all. Me and my DP have separated after he left us for another woman. I have two DD's with him and he now wants access to them. He wants to take them to he's mums house. He's mother has been utterly nasty to me and blames DP going with other woman on me. I have been broken and frightened since the breakup. I am scared he will take my kids away from me ....

Me and DD's are currently living in he's house (he's moved out) and I am trying my best to move so he no longer has control over me.

Please help me on this access issue, I am very scared he will come one day and take them,

Thank you all in advance . Xx

We are not legally married. But he is on the kids birth certificate.

Is there a reason you are frightened he'll abduct them? Is he from another country? Has he threatened to do so?

Where is the problem? The children have a right to spend time with their dad..... Your personal issues with him are seperate

Thanks all for your reply. Yes there had been a history of psychical and psychological abuse but I more worried about there not being any legal agreement in place. And if he does have them for the weekend what's to guarantee he will bring them back?? We are both from the uk.

It is very much encourage for parents to try and sort a contact schedule between themselves and that court should be a last resort.
Was the abuse just to yourself or to the children as well?
Even where there are concerns for the safety of the children there should be efforts to help them to have a relationship with that parent using supervised contact.

Do you have a reason to believe he won't bring them back or this an anxiety of yours?

It is difficult but actually it can be more settling for the children to know Dad hasn't disappeared. Dad still cares..

It is also you separate what is going on for you and the kids

Talk to Women's Aid, get legal advice. If this man has been abusive then don't waste time trying to reason with him: get a good sound legal structure in place. If there is a genuine threat of him abducting them, you can insist on supervised contact. If he's ever been abusive to the children, you can restrict it even more heavily - it's better for kids to have no contact with their father if he's a shitbag who is going to hurt them.