Last week me and my dp of 2.5 years split up. My dd2 is 3.5 and sees him as her dad...I have never actively encouraged her to do this, she has just drawn her own conclusions. Mostly she calls him by his first name but sometimes she will call him daddy.
She does not see her biological father as he is a very dangerous man and I have court orders to prevent him from having contact with her. On CAFCASS's advice I do talk to her about him sometimes and show her photos, and she knows him as her 'tummy daddy'.
She is very close to ex dp. It has only been a few days so she has not asked too many questions yet, but I know I am going to have to explain to her that she isn't going to see the man she sees as her father again. I did make it clear to him that if he wants to maintain a relationship with dd he is welcome to, as I know he loves her. She asked to speak to him on the phone a couple of nights ago, so I sent him a text saying that she wanted to speak to him and was it ok to call, and he didn't reply and I haven't heard from him since, so I guess that's a no to having a relationship with dd, which is fair enough but it's going to be so hard on her.
I really don't know how to deal with this. Any advice gratefully received.