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Latest trauma - advice please!

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wirral · 17/08/2006 15:50

Hi - I've had a terrible week. Daughter was supposed to go abroad with ex husband on Monday. She refused to go ( She's only 6) and short of dragging her out of the house ex husband had to leave her. At this stage I was unsure as to whether he would go himself or not. I phoned his flat and texted him numerous times during the day. My final text said 'Sorry, I hope that you are ok wherever you are? Please phone our daughter whenever you want.'I didn't hear anything from him
On Tuesday I went into work ( I'd arranged to work whilst they were away) and left daugther with my parents. At 11 am I got a phone call - number withheld from ex husband. He asked to speak to daugther - I explained where she was. He then went mad saying that I had no right to arrange childcare when he was supposed to have her. I asked if he were still in the UK but he refused to tell me. Eventually after numerous texts he admitted that he was still in his flat. I asked if he wanted our daughter at his flat for the rest of the week. He said that he did but only from Wednesday night as he had now made other arrangements!! This meant that I had to take Wednesday off work!

I am so so fed up. I think that he will now end up taking me to court. Does anyone know how shift workers are treated in court? He currently picks up daughter 3 evenings a week from school, has her on two of these nights until 6.30 pm and overnight on the third as long as it is the weekend. He is blaming me for the holiday situation saying that because I restrict his access our daughter is unwilling to stay with him ( She has just got back from a week staying in his flat with him)

Is this my fault?? Sorry this is such a long thread!

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bluejelly · 17/08/2006 16:26

Wirral it's not your fault honey. Don't blame yourself. I have a 6 yo dd and I can imagine her doing something similar-- they know their own mind!
It doesn't sound like you restrict access at all. He seems to think that she should be happy to spend long stretches away from her mother and that you and her should fit in with all his wants and needs. But he is being unrealistic and overly pushy, in my opinion.
Have you spoken to a solicitor?

anniemac · 17/08/2006 16:44

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