Single mum to two - scary thought!!!!

[jellyplate]

I've been a single mum for three years, found it hard but coped quite well i think.
I'm pregnant again and not in a proper relationship with the father and i'm getting a bit apprehensive about having two children on my own.

Anyone else been through the same??

yes. well.. not quite but i have brought a second child into the world knowing i'd be doing it on my own.
i don't know anything else so i find it quite easy now but i seriously doubt i could have said that when my youngest was a baby.
its hard at first. it gets easier.
theres no need to worry. when things got difficult i always told myself- you know you are more than capable stop being so silly.
you find hidden strengths and i always think it must be easier not to have a man about the place adding to washing, contradicting your parenting and just generally being annoying.
you'll be fine.

Congratulations on your pregnancy jellycat

Having another child is always quite a nerve wracking experience anyway, whether you are in a relationship or not. It changes the balance of things and there is always the uncertainty about whether you will be able to cope/afford it/ever have a life of your own etc etc.

It sounds as if you have done an amazing job over the last few years and you can do it again this time too.

Your eldest child will be thrilled to have a baby brother or sister as it will be great company for him/her and when they are older, they can play together leaving you more time to come on mumsnet

You will make a lovely family I'm sure

Your right musicbugs, my daughter is thrilled at the thought of having a baby around I am aswell and i know that i'll cope because it's a case of having to really.

I do worry about the future though, things like who's going to be interested in a single mum with two kids?!

Well, he'll need to be pretty special to be good enough for you and your family, so when you find him - hang on to him.

Seriously though, there are loads of men out there who are divorced/separted with kids of their own.

When is your baby due and where are you based. Perhaps a nearby mumsnetter can come and baby sit for you and give you the chance to get out and let your hair down!

Well, fingers crossed and lets hope your right.
Just have to watch this space..
Baby's due end of jan. Based in Hayes.

Are u in a relationship now?

Hi jellyplate I'm a single mum of 2 dd is 20 months and ds is 6.5 months (exdh left when I was 3 months pg with ds) its not easy but get easier everyday, and I can truly say I've never been happier, yeah I have bad days but who doesn't just got to keep smiling!do you have friends or family to help out??

My family don't live round here and I have't got that many friends really as recent events have made it hard for me to meet people.

Hopefully being pregnant will give me a chance to meet some new people

Thats the same with me,the only family I have is my nan and only a few friends, although, I have met people from mn in my area are there any mners near you ?? You are right tho you will meet people through being pregnant at ante natal classes/clinics etc. I'm 26 and I was very worried that no-one would want me as I am a single mum with 2 babies but then I went on the blind date from hell thanks to a not so close friend and I've realised I am happier on my own for the time being, just concentrating on me and dcs! I'm here for a chat/support etc if you need it?

Thanks - think i'll be needing a lot of support over the coming months.
There's no mn's that i know of in my area but i'm keeping my eyes open.

I know that in a lot of ways i'm better off on my own but still miss the companionship.

Im a single mum of 4! they are 9,6,3 and 2.
The boys live part time at their dads at the moment due to court case for custody.
It can be tough but im sure you will manage.

Well i have to say tortoise that i dont think i could do what you are doing, but at least the children still have there dad there (hopefully things aren't too messy between you).

I suppose we all have our limits of what we can cope with. I know i'll manage - just upsetting in a way that i have to do it on my own

You'll be fine Jellyplate. My dh left me for someone else when I was 5 months pg with my second son. At the time I fell apart but 3 years later I've realised that it was the best thing that could have happened to me. It's hard doing it on your own but you've done a good job so far and its definitely easier second time round.

I thought I'd never meet anyone and was quite happy to concentrate on the kids and not bother with men, but then a nice divorced bloke moved in 2 doors down from me and asked me out ... a year down the line and we're engaged and about to move into a house of our own.

Happy as I am now, I'll always remember the time I was on my own with the kids as one of the happiest times of my life, its the hardest thing you'll ever do but the most rewarding!

hi jellyplate. im a single mum to two kids, became a single mum when ds was 1 1/2 (he's now 9) and was on my own with dd (2 1/2) from three months pg. dd is a little terror and nothing like her calm brother but it hasnt been half as bad as i thought it would be.

i thought too that no-one would be interested in a single mum with two kids by different dads but actually that never put anyone off, ive been on my own for so long mostly because i wanted to. its surprising how many people arent bothered by it. i wouldnt worry about that too much.

congratulations anyway and im sure you'll be fine

first of all CONGRATULATIONS!

pregnancy is always a wonderful thing. im single mum to 9 wk old. ive not got many friends and my family live 350 miles away. ive got mmsnetter coming to c me nxt wk and hope to meet people that way.

cant give any advice coz i havnt figured it out myself yet but can say i empathise and know how ur feeling. if u live anywhere near me we cud always meet up if u like.

Well thanks for all the encouragement!

I live in Hayes, gem1984, whereabouts are you.

Is baby boy or girl?

Nightowl, dont you get lonely on your own and crave more adult contact?
Don't get me wrong i love being with my daughter but feel the need for some adult company more than i get it.

i live in halifax..... i dont know where hayes is. he's a boy. is ur first boy or girl and do u know sex of ur new baby?

Sorry not had chance to log on over weekend.
To gem1984 - my first is a girl. don't know the sex of the baby but will find out.

To mummypumpkin - i'm not sure how much involvement the baby's father is going to have. I hope a lot but i know he feels a bit awkward about the situation.

I got pregnant by my sons dad when my daughter was 3, different dads, I was on my own with my daughter when she was only 3 months old, then I met my ex, had a miscarriage, then got pregnant again, was only with him for 5 months, I ended it with him when I was 2 months pregnant with my son, I just knew it wasnt right between us, so I was facing the prospect of being a single mum to a 4 year old and a newborn, my mum tried to talk me into having an abortion but I decided against it, so I went through with it, my son is two now and I have to say it wasnt as hard as I thought it would be, sometimes I was lonely and got upset seeing happy families etc but other than that I coped amazingly well, I'm due to get engaged soon, so not going to be living on my own for too much longer now but I found it quite easy to cope with to be honest, I mean you just do cope with it dont you?

Oh and as for no one being interested in a single mum of 2, I've never ever had any problems, infact I have more guys interested in me than my friends do who dont have kids, theres alot of guys out there seperated with kids themselves too so I wouldnt worry about that.

Hi
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