This is also in the legal bit but someone suggested here too so here I go, again! Not sure where to start. I have 2 children dd 20 months ds 6.5 months. My ex dh and I separated summer 05 (his decision- well he dropped me and dd at my nans house and never came back)and subsequently are getting divorced. Ex dh has not seen dd since 26th July 05 and never met or acknowledged ds. When ds was born I called exdh from the hosp to say that we had a son exdh said 'oh well whatever' and put the phone down. He has not contributed in anyway to their ubringing, no cards presents at birthday and xmas for dd. No maintenance payments either despite csa being involved (no surprise there really). I petitioned for the divorce in oct '05 for which I got huge amounts of verbal and mental abuse and nasty text messages from exdh, he still hasn't acknowledged it but through varuious affidavits for deemed service etc I have managed to get the courts to dissolve the marriage and I am waiting for decree nisi now. When my son was born he took my maiden name. When dd was born she took my married name and I am going to get that changed to my maiden name again through the courts as he will not give his permission (even though he doesn't want to see or have anything to do with her). I'm sorry it has taken this long to get to the point my question is what should I do regarding dissolving his parental responsibility to dd and ds? Is it my decision to make? Should I leave the decision to the children for when they are older (bearing in mind dd is 20 months and ds is 6.5 months)? I'm a bit lost and could do with some advice/opinions and a little cheering up because this is getting me a bit down now, thank you