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So angry I'm shaking

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Twinkleandbunty · 31/01/2014 19:56

Ex took our 16month old son away for a couple of days earlier. As they left I asked him to txt me when they got to their destination (ex was not driving so no problems re calling/texting etc).
This is the first time DS has been away from me in a few months, last time was with ex too but DS was not as clingy etc.
The weather has been awful and it was all motorway driving. I texted to remind him to txt when they got there. No reply.
Left it a couple of hours around the time they should have arrived, no reply. Getting worried now, tried phoning - voicemail, more texts, no reply.
I eventually get a call at 7.15pm when I'm in tears imagining all sorts as it's been 6.5 hours of no communication...
He was emotionally abusive when we were together, and I have a tough time dealing with him. He was laughing and said I was being irrational.
Things have been very strained between us recently but i thought it would be nice for my son and I needed the break.
I now feel that he's done this deliberately, and don't know where to go from here.
We live in different countries and I facilitate communication at least once a day for him with our son. I'm just so angry that he's been this cruel to me and disrespectful.
Sorry for the ramble and I don't know why I'm posting really - just to rant I suppose.
Thanks for reading.

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MsColour · 31/01/2014 20:30

No advice. Just sympathy. My ex refused to tell me whether bor not he was taking kids to NI over new year and refuses to let me speak to them when he has them. He was EA also.

Twinkleandbunty · 31/01/2014 20:43

Thanks for replying MsColour it's tough isn't it?
I think with the EA personality comes control freakery - if they're not the resident parent it's a bit of control when they have the DC.
And obviously a good way of upsetting us...
I FaceTime every single day for my ex - my DS is too young to care! I do it to help their future relationship. I sometimes wonder why I bother!

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Monetbyhimself · 31/01/2014 20:50

Keep doing the right thing OP. Keep the Facetime going, keep being the stable base for your little boy. Over time you'll start to develop strategies to help deal with his shit. It takes time but you'll get there. He thrives on you being upset so don't give him that power.

Twinkleandbunty · 31/01/2014 21:19

Agreed Monet - think I failed on that one this evening! I was very upset by the time he bothered to get in touch.
He has since however texted an apology, when I said there needed to be mutual communication or I may just 'forget' as well. Probably not the best move but gave him food for thought.

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