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Original poster

1st date on sat, nervous,wish me luck!

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rainbowfeet · 30/01/2014 21:41

Got a 1st date on sat night.. Met online been texting for about 3 weeks.
Haven't had a date for about 3 years very nervous... Top tips people please.

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GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 02/02/2014 18:58

I don't think she said he kissed her... [On edge of seat.] ;-)

DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 02/02/2014 19:15

Oh I must have misinterpreted, my mistake sorry.

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rainbowfeet · 02/02/2014 21:16

Ha ha... You all got carried away!!

No, he didn't kiss me but I would have flinched!!

Deffo a non starter!

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Monetbyhimself · 02/02/2014 21:37

Glad you had a 'nice' time. If he was a nice guy, i'd be tempted to go for a second date. My approach is nothing to lose.

JuliaGulia · 02/02/2014 21:38

I agree with Green, give it a few more dates. I tried to dump my Internet date after our first date but he suggested we just see how things go. This weekend I have been dating him a year and I've had the time of my life. I'm not sure there was a spark to speak of but we've just spent time finding things out about each other, having fun and seeing what happens. No agenda, no pressure and no regrets :-)

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 02/02/2014 21:50

So physically, it's a definite no no?

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 02/02/2014 21:53

Do you think you would never want to have sex with him?

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 02/02/2014 22:03

Yeah I've had a couple of dates is true where they've been very keen. I can remember two that were really persistent after first date but I just couldn't bring myself to see them again because the dates themselves were really really not fun. Actually these 2 I'm thinking of were painfully bad. Another where I had a really nice time and have seen each other a couple of times since (6 months between each time as he lives quite far away) & we're still friendly but just friends. Most though I really didnt have a nice time. At all. I think if you're able to have a decent evening with someone, that's a really great start and if he isn't totally repellent, it's worth a second shot, even if in your mind, it's only as possible friends. One guy I met was obese. Other than that he was really great. It was hard to work out what to do there. I ended up just being honest with him. I could have just gone on meeting up with him friendly-style and I would have liked that as he was nice, attentive, interesting etc but he wanted more and told me that so I ended up having to be honest with him.

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rainbowfeet · 03/02/2014 08:38

I think it's a mixture of I don't find him at all attractive really & a lot is me being quite a cold fish .... I am probably hard to flirt with as I'm so suspicious of men so the whole date ends up a bit.... Chilly!!!

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DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 03/02/2014 09:43

After three years of not dating I would regard Saturday night as getting back on the horse so to speak, next person you arrange to meet you might like better.

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 04/02/2014 15:31

Ah! I've got a date now for this Friday! Eek!

KatoPotato · 04/02/2014 15:51

Ahhh, sorry to hear that OP. It's all experience!

Green that's very exciting... tell more!

Monetbyhimself · 04/02/2014 17:33

Green spill

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 04/02/2014 18:11

It's an iInternet date. Haven't been on one in aaaages! Found them a bit stressful tbh and as us single parents haven't much free time...

This guy seems nice. Left me a voicemail and has a really nice voice! We're going for dinner.

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 04/02/2014 18:13

If we don't fancy each other, never mind... I need some new male friends too! :-)

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 04/02/2014 18:33

It is vital that I look sexy. I dont know if I should go with the short black dress, black tights, nice flats (we're a similar height on paper!) or if I should just do the jeggings & nice top. If he's a good one, he's going to be a really, really good one :-)

Monetbyhimself · 04/02/2014 18:35

I think Lbd !

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 04/02/2014 18:39

Yeah... we're meeting in a European-style cafe/restaurant/bar and we just left it open as to whether or not we would eat. If he's nice, I'll eat. If he's not, I'll have something quick like a coke haha!

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 04/02/2014 18:42

Sorry Rainbowfeet I'm butting in on your thread ;-)

I'm trying not to be excited but I kind of am excited. Ok I am NOT thinking about it til Friday.

Monetbyhimself · 05/02/2014 16:14

Sounds perfect. Having a get out clause is good!

mrswarbouys · 05/02/2014 16:55

I got asked out by my gorgeous, rugged, muscly builder. First date and I jumped on him, we shagged all night... I couldn't help myself, were getting married in March.

Monetbyhimself · 05/02/2014 17:48

Mrswar I like your style !!

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 05/02/2014 18:21

Lol! I take it you're completely joking ?!?!

mrswarbouys · 06/02/2014 10:01

Me? No I did, honest!! I grabbed him, snogged him, tore off his shirt, plunged hands down his trousers. I was out of control, she-wolf like!!! Never have I done that before ever. Getting turned on just writing about it TBH. I started a thread on here about it at the time. He's got a house in Normandy, (well, sort of barn really) that he's doing up and were getting married there in July. Not March! Sorry to hi-jack thread rainbowfeet

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 06/02/2014 10:39

You're an inspiration, she-wolf!

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