Day to day struggles

[pinklady1107]

Apologies for a moan

Anybody else struggle with day to day stuff?
I am on my own with 2 dc, at the moment they see dad every other wknd ( I've been told he's stopping soon due to new baby arriving. My two aren't allowed to stay overnight once it arrives???)

I'm exhausted, I work, I run a home, I get eow 'free' but there's still always something. Tonight the eldest has spilt nail polish, it's just enough to tip me over . I've come to my room for time out because I'm so fed up of having to do everything and be everything and remember everything! It's exhausting and day to day it's getting me down.

Am I the only one wading through treacle every day or am I making it harder than it should be?

Why on earth are your dc not allowed to stay over night? I have two dsc 13&7. And my dh and I have our own ds 12m. We have two bedrooms, it's a squeeze but if he told their mum they couldn't stay (which he wouldn't) because we had a baby I'd have something to say about it! That's so hurtful!

no you are not the only one. I've had tough couple of days on all fronts. its so hard doing full time job and running home with all different after school activities etc. I should work at night too but I'm so tired I can't concentrate enough too.

I think it is always the little things that tip us over. mine was brown paint spilt on rug the other day.

then had tears tonight as a lovely work friend sent such a supportive text it tipped me over the edge.

I dont understand the not being able to stay over, poor dcs.

hope you are just having tough few days too and we will both by smiling by Friday...it is pay day after all

thank you

yes sadly I've been told they can't stay until the baby becomes settled my argument is what if they lived there? but I'll be in the wrong whatever I say so I don't, I just try to help my DC process it.

just find myself doing everything even homework comes back untouched so I'm a touch tired at present.
We have a lost slyvanian family accesorrie too tonight.

Fingers crossed we will have a better few days ahead

did you get the brown paint out?!

thanks for reading my moan - just the smallest thing tipped the scales tonight!

Pinklady, how sad for your DCs that they won't be able to stay at their dad's when their sibling is born, it may be worth having a chat with your ex about how pushed out that is going to make them feel.

I bet you feel worried about not getting a rest eow as well, I know I would, and that is just as important, as it sounds like you sometimes find parenting on your own as tough as I do. The day-to-day of being the lone adult in the house really gets me down, and my fortnightly break is the only thing that keeps me sane! Do you have anyone else around who can give you some time off once their Dad stops having them overnight, a sleepover at Granny's house or a friend's house once a month may save your sanity?

I don't have much advice to offer about how to deal with the day-to-day reality of being a single parent, as I am deep in the thick of it myself with children of 5 and under, and a demanding job. I often feel I am just getting through one hour at a time at home, and feel that one little upset or accident tips me over the edge, and I know I am far too stressed, rushed and shouty .

I find the two things that really help is making sure I get to bed straight after the oldest is in bed at least twice a week, instead of staying up doing housework and faffing on the internet, but I have to really force myself to do this. I also make an effort to get some real downtime on my time off, to really take me out of myself iyswim, rather than just catching up on sleep and housework / car / work crap, whether that is seeing friends and letting my hair down properly, or reading a book under a blanket on the sofa I can't put down, with the nicest food I don't tend to eat with my kids, and the stereo on playing my music.

Thanks for your reply, some very useful tips I can use

Yes am worried but more worried for them and how excluded they will feel. He can't be talked too, sadly any discussion leads to abuse via email and I've had to have the police out a fortnight ago . He just sees me as controlling him through the dc, very sad and frustrating when all I want is them to see him and have a decent relationship with him, excluding them from over night when baby comes is cruel for them but he will never see that.

Been a better few days no nail polish incidents and all calm!

Thanks everyone xx