i posted awhile back about how hard i was finding things with dds sleep (2.5 years and never slept well) and the fact that my ex doesn't take her overnights. well he used to take her 2 days during the week but is now going to be on shift work and won't be able to take her 2 full days, so he agreed to take her one night a week. i thought, great i will finally get a night of sleep as im just knackered.
well last week was her first time at his house, and she slept perfectly but then she came home totally hyper the next day, and didn't sleep at all the next night - a lot worse than usual. it had a severe effect on her mood, behaviour and also my ability to cope and things felt a lot worse than before. i feel she has gone backwards... she was sleeping in her own bed but getting up through the night, but wanted back in my bed etc.
i have said to exh that i will give it another shot this week, but if it continues to be a pattern then i don't think its in her best interests at this stage (and what was going to be a help to me is the opposite - but i didn't say that as that doesn't matter to him obviously) i am at my wits end with exhaustion. dd was taking steps forward...she needs to learn good sleep habits not get worse. if these are only a few weeks teething problems then we will get through it but if not, surely its reasonable that its in dds interests to prosphone staying over with him till she can handle it?
how does anyone else get round their partner working shift work? it seems so hard. he just says his shifts then we work round them - he says he needs a day off to study as he is at uni and also on a placement. i am thinking if sleeping at his is going to disrupt her this much, it would be better for him to try to see her more during the day such as a morning or an afternoon - i don't know. i really just don't know what to do. i was so looking forward to getting a night a week off too.