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Anyone that can advise me on contact hearing stuff? Please dont flame! Please!

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Dishabiliophobia · 24/01/2014 20:21

Long story short, Very violent Ex. 9 month old baby. Non molestation order in place and supervised contact, everything is still going through court. A cafcass section 7 has been ordered with respect to his parenting capabilities and violence, some of which he has admitted to.
Cafcass are obviously going to speak to me as well as him to build up a clear picture, and I can hand on heart say I have told the truth all the way throughout, He has lied through his teeth and been proven to on almost every occasion.

Im worried as I have very recently met someone else, And if he knows this and cafcass ask about that, I dont have it in me to lie to them. But if they find out that I have met somebody else only 6 months after separation will that go against me in their reccomendations and proceedings? Please dont flame me for having met someone quite soon.
Everything so far has been lies and things twisted against me and Im worried that this is going to be his latest plan of attack.

Is there anyone that can give some insight, thats been through something similar or knows someone who has or am I totally posting in the wrong place?
Thanks!

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sanityseeker75 · 25/01/2014 18:41

I really wouldn't lie anyway. There is no need to. You have met someone new and that is nothing to do with his contact arrangements and wouldn't come into it.

VelvetGecko · 25/01/2014 18:51

My only advice would be to take your new relationship very slowly. You're not long out of an abusive relationship and you have a young baby. Am sure he's lovely but am always wary of men who are attracted to vulnerable women.

IneedAsockamnesty · 25/01/2014 22:50

I second velvets advice compleatly.

But unless your being supported by ss nobody will care nobody will openly judge you and it will have nothing to do with contact.

But your ex will try and use it.

IneedAsockamnesty · 25/01/2014 22:51

Oh he will also try to provoke your new bf into drama and possibly feeling like he needs to physically defend you so e can them say he's a risk.

lostdad · 27/01/2014 08:35

No, don't lie. But don't make a big deal out of it either.

There is no reason why you having a boyfriend should make a difference to the best interests of your DC unless you're doing something stupid where he's concerned.

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