How much contact should exP have if he's still being a ****

[Aloneandnowwhat]

Sorry didn't know what to refer to him as!
So he's been moved out for two weeks now. I've let him see ds(2) every time he's asked but every single time exP has caused upset.
If I've gone along to supervise he's used the visit as an excuse to harass me about moving back in, if I hand ds over at the door he uses that to try to get in the house, where's had him alone he comes back upset and has cried for me apparently.
I'm still getting at least 50-100 texts a day from ex. I absolutely know he's using the children to get to me, that I'll get sick of this and let him come home.
How many chances should I give him to see the kids? I never say anything bad to them about exP but he says things to ds like'mummy won't let daddy come home'. Should I stop contact until he takes me to court?
I actually feel like he's waging a campaign just to wear me down until I take him back, I'm exhausted.
Any advice greatly appreciated.

Get a cheap PAYG phone, tell him you've changed your number and only have the phone switched on when the kids are with him. Keep any communication about the logistics of contact.

Arrange for someone else to be in the house with you and take the children to the door when he collects them.

Lots if reassurance for the children about the things that he's saying.

Give him another couple of weeks to settle down. If he does calm down, it will be easier to discuss future contact.

Sounds like a nightmare!

He needs to realize that his contact with his kids and his relationship with you need to be kept separate. I imagine the children are getting upset because they are caught in the middle.

The children do need to maintain a relationship with their father as long as the contact is for their benefit not for him to manipulate you with. I would suggest it was best that you are not there for the contact and handover is either through a mutual party or in a public place so conversation can't be had for little ears to hear.

find a way for someone else family or friend to take ds to see his dad .
get another phone and dont respond to anything unless it's about teh time ds will meet him
set specific times for contact.

Did you throw him out for violence, OP? If so, get legal advice - violent men need their access strictly controlled for the DC's safety. If you threw him out for being a whiny, lazy bellend, or for infidelity, use all the distancing tactics advised above: have someone else do handovers, tell him to make arrangements via email and that texts and phone calls will not be answered, and if he turns up unexpectedly on the doorstep and makes a fuss, lock him out and call the police.

ThNks all for the advice. I made him leave because of his lying, stealing and cheating. He's never been physically violent, but has broken our living room window twice.
I'm going to stick to contact at playgroups again I think for now, and try to find someone to be a middle man.

Keep the texts and go to the police. My XP was fined for just that, and they stopped overnight.

They might also suggest a contact centre for visits. The police and womens aid were great with me, have a word with them and they should be able to support you and get your ex to behave a bit.