I dont know what to do, my current arrangement is that my ex's mum collects the dd from an arranged place for 5 hrs every 2 wks. She is now saying she cant do this due to working full time and its going to be the ex that collects her. The problem being that my ex suffers with depression and has told me of trying to kill himself by driving into oncoming traffic in the past. He hasnt had contact with dd for 8 wks until last weekend due to depression again so has lost the bond with his dd and she has only just stopped having emotional issues (crying) when we put her into grandmothers car. I have been advised by CAB to write a letter stating my concerns but as the grandparent works for social services I feel like she knows how to get round things. I understand what she is trying to do for her son to get him out of his depression by being involved in his dd life and he is still allowed to collect his other 3 children from previous relationships but as he is still depressed and angry at me I dont feel I can trust him with dd until they have formed a bond