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Nrp can't have what HE wants so is threatening court again

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Sowain · 19/01/2014 13:27

We have had a court order in place for two years, which has mostly been ok apart from him not stopping drinking on contact as undertaken by him lateness etc. The OW has moved in (affair started before youngest was born. She is his 1st wife),and now the 3 dates offered for easter holidays have been refused as he has taken 5 days out of the easter holidays to go on holiday with her and her kids without checking dates first. He is refusing to have week before as her kids are still in school that week, all this means is my dc will miss out on a holiday abroad with me because he has refused all options and saying he needs bank holidays as he can't take leave(except when its to go on holiday with her). I don't mind what he does but I think before he booked he should have checked. He is now threatening court again because he can't have what he wants. Never mind the dc being messed around with a day here day there as he wants to fit round him and missing a holiday. The pair are selfish b*. And yes she is going for another round of violence,lying and bankruptcy.

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MyNameIsKenAdams · 19/01/2014 13:28

Can he not take your child on the hokiday too?

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Sowain · 19/01/2014 13:32

My dc are not included. I think its one OW booked just for them

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Sowain · 19/01/2014 13:33

Her kids are told not to tell mine and ex and her never tell dc anything.

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queenofthepirates · 19/01/2014 13:38

If you can't both sort this out face to face, it sounds as thought you are going back to court. I can hear the animosity in your post, and probably quite rightly, but if there's no give on either side, you are heading for spending the kids' inheritance on solicitors.

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Sowain · 19/01/2014 14:04

He has already done that and left me with a reposed house and £100000 mortgage outstanding

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Sowain · 19/01/2014 14:05

He contradicts his own emails impossible to make any arrangements as he lies then trips up later

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Monetbyhimself · 19/01/2014 14:19

Print out the emails and let him go back to court. Is it worth trying to get the dates very specific ? Judge saw rught through Ex as a controlling arse and his summer holiday weeks are fixed for the duration of the residency order. Exs default response to any non fixed dates is 'no' so I'll suggest he has days 1,2 and 3 of half term week, knowing that he'll say he wants days 4&5.

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Sowain · 19/01/2014 14:27

Yes it would, he dresses it up as not being flexible ie not doing what he wants. I will not have a solicitor this time but my barrister at last hearing said he is thoroughly nasty. I hope court can see him for what he is abusive and controlling.

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mumtobealloveragain · 19/01/2014 16:11

What does the Court order say about Easter holidays? That they are shared 1 week each?

mumtobealloveragain · 19/01/2014 16:12

If he returns to Court over Easter holiday/Holiday contact you don't need a barrister or even a solicitor, represent yourself.

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Sowain · 19/01/2014 16:22

It says half each, and alternate years easter sun and gd friday. He has had easter by agreement for two years running. This year as he booked 5 day holiday right in the middle I am expected to fit round this and consequently dc have missed out on holiday as tickets have gone and he doesn't want them 1st week no reason given and he took over 10 days to even reply and had the nerve to say I should have told him earlier( because I'm a mind reader and can predict he is booking a secret holiday!)

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FrogStarandRoses · 20/01/2014 07:29

What has your DCs SM got to do with this?

Your ex may be an arse who isn't putting his DCs first - but your venom towards your DCs SM is completely misdirected; it's not her responsibility to tell your ex how to behave.

mumtobealloveragain · 20/01/2014 10:08

There must be an easier way to resolve this than going back to Court. It will be a waste of time and money for you both.

Half each of Easter holidays. If I'm right the holidays are 2 weeks for Easter. So you'd expect a full week each. Are you saying he's booked 5 days away in the middle so wants to still have half the holidays but wants his half split to before and after his holiday?

To be honest, if you didn't have an agreement in place, even a verbal one between you, to split the Easter holiday into full weeks then him booking a 5 day holiday in the middle is no different to you wanting to book a full week holiday, if that makes sense.

Why don't you now try and agree on how the 50:50 share of holidays will happen for the rest of the year so the kids know where they are and when and

mumtobealloveragain · 20/01/2014 10:10

Ooop...

and you are then both free to book holidays around that schedule with or without the kids.

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