i would just love some opinion please. i have finished with my 2ds dad in the nw. my ex told my eldest that he won't be coming home anymore but he could visit him when he's older. he bought them both an ipad so they could do facetime on it. the first 2 weeks my eldest son would ring to his dad every day and they would talk for a while. but now i had to put their ipad away because as soon ad they see it they're want to play on it hours on end. so i told them that they could use it to call their dad and only play games on the weekends. their father had not called once to ask about the kids. so i told them that he was very busy. each time its hw time he would feel teary. its not a new thing because making him to sit down and do his hw has always been very stressful for us. but now my eldest son would say that i don't love him. he says his dad loves him more and he feels the same too. i let him know that we both love them very much even if he thinks i don't. he told me that he wants to go and live with his da. he is unhappy with me, he cries and says he miss him very much & his dad will never come and visit him anymore. i blame his dad for telling him that. he's a very sensitive boy and i feel he lacks confidence and feeling sad. His younger bro 8 doesn't feel the same. he is s go lucky character. he can let go of things and bounce back with no trouble. i don't know what to say to him their dad don't come and visit them since we split up. he has told his son that they can stay with him in the summer holidays. is it selfish of me to not let them go because my ex hadn't made the effort to call once. only call back when my ds leaves a miss call. I am worried that he doesn't want to live with me and if he does go in the summer holidays,it will take a long time before he can get back to his routine. not sure what to do but want my ds to be happy again.