Hi everyone. I'm 13+5 today. I've posted in another forum but maybe will meet some more people here. I'm currently living in Asia but am from the UK.
3 days ago I got home from work and discovered that my DP/ExP (not sure which) had packed all his belongings and left. He left me note saying he was returning to Europe. The only things he left behind were the christmas presents I bought him and a book on pregnancy for dads. I thought that was a particularly nice touch.
To add insult to injury I only have 4 weeks left at work. I'm 37 and this is my first pg (his first too), I'm finding it very hard physically and emotionally. I have quite a senior job that has been particularly demanding in the last few months and he wanted me to quit because it was bad for my health. Kept telling me that he earns enough to support us all and I didn't need to work until the baby was at school.
So now I find myself all alone in a strange country, no income coming in (and I wasn't earning so much so I don't have savings to fall back on) and basically unemployable because I'm pg. I'll be heading back to the UK and I need a plan to find somewhere to live and to support myself and my baby. I realise now that I cannot rely on DP in any way, though I am waiting for him to reply to my question about financial support. Also my question as to whether he wants a relationship with his child. Let's just say I'm not holding my breath to either.
I'm also very worried at the emotional toll this might be taking on the baby. Trying very hard to stay calm & relax, but keep on fighting hysterical bouts of crying / sobbing. Wake up in the night crying too. I guess that will pass.
Any advice anyone might have would be appreciated. I suspect I'll be hanging on this forum quite a bit. Thanks for reading