ExH left 18 months ago for OW, various issues with his care of DD. Ongoing problems due to OW's DD being in my DD's year at school (they are nearly 10). Just before christmas he was caught drink driving with DD in the car (not just over the limit either) drinking while DD was in his care had been a concern I had raised with him. We had had 50:50 shared care with support and advice from solictor I now have her all week and he sees her EOW. He lost his job as a result of losing his licence. So now there is no maintenance. I also work evenings and am on cal some nights.
Now to the moan I am exhausted sorting out the mess he has created (which of course he will not acknowledge or do anything to help with is exahusting. I know I am lucky to be able to afford all this, but it is through years of hard work running my own business. So I am getting an au pair so I have had hours reading CVs and skyping to find the right person. I am selling my car to buy a teeny weeny car for the au pair and a slight bigger one for me. Till she arrives in a week I am running ragged making sure DD is alright and working. Even something as small as getting a PAYG mobile for her just felt overwhealming today. I hav budgetted to within an inch of my life and we can just afford it all, but there is no safety net.
He sits in his house with OW (who is an alcoholic) drinking and smoking. Oh and clients scream down the phone at me when I have the audacity to ask them to pay their bill, they don't have any dispute with the service just take exception to being sent a statement asking them to pay their bill.
I know it will get better when the au pair arrives I won't be so exhausted, but just now it feels like I am scrabbling to stay still. Oh and the old chestnut of no one to talk to about it.