So how does a lone parent make new mates??

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I'm not hankering after the 'feel sorry for me card', but I literally have no one right now - and just need a pal (a bit teary.so apologies)

I Miss my nan x

Poor you. I know the feeling! This takes time I think. It's taken me a few years to build friendships/ rekindle old ones/ find 'going out' friends for the odd (please read rare) night out.

Do you not think mumsnet should be more NCT???

What age are your kids? Toddler groups, work, school gates, neighbours...

10 and 4 - I think I've been a bit distant from actually trying to make friends, not been in the best place (rocky relationship etc) -

So, new day, new stuff,

new can't remember when I actually last 'went out' when it was dark!!!

It is hard trying to make friends when you can't actually do much child free.

Set your sights on some potentials and invite them for a coffee. You'll feel better for making the effort even if it doesn't turn up results straight away.

I think MN local is good in some areas, there is also Netmums. Check if your area has some kind of parenting FB page too. There might be a lone parents support group in your area if you are lucky.

meetup, parents from school.
Old friends that I have reconnected with.

I've just moved to a totally new city. I'm letting the kids help me out with this one. Chatting to mums when they run off and play with other kids in the park has been a good one, I'm pretty chatty with new people - eg announce I'm new to the area and DS1 is at the local preschool, ask how old are their DC? Any suggestions on nice things to do in the area etc?

So far, two numbers exchanged and an invite to tag along to a toddler group. When the weather improves we'll picnic at the park after school kicks out and see who else pitches up, offer to share snacks, that kind of thing.

I've also left a note in one of DS1's classmates bags before (teacher put it in for me) saying Hi, I'm nef, my son mentions playing with yours often but we've not met. I'd like to invite you both over for a playdate if your son would like to come? Here's my number... The mum rang and turns out she was feeling pretty lonely and fed up too, so we're now pretty good friends.

Be bold. The worst people can say is no!

I find it hard too because if i am not at work my dd is always with me.

My dd is 9 and i find Netmums is more for people with pre school children.

I have tried making friends through my dd but the people i met werent interested or i couldnt be bothered with the hassle they caused.

In my exp. you can only make proper genuine friends with single people be it male or female as the married women just aren't interested.