moving whole family

[Outnumbrd]

Hello! I have a very exciting year ahead but also very daunting. I am a single mum of 4 DC. I have been single for a while and been working in an average, stable career. Recently I was encouraged to go back to my childhood passion, so I did some auditions and have been offered a place on a postgrad course in London. I'm over the moon, its such an inspiring college, and I love London in general, think I'm more suited to the way of life, open-mindedness, love the fact that whatever you are interested in you can always find it going off somewhere there!

However the reality is my 4DC, the younger two I'm not so worried about, but the older two are in year 7 and 9 atm. How do I tell them, begin looking for schools, ensure a smooth transition. What would you do or would you just not go for it perhaps?

They know I've got a place but I find it odd they've not mentioned moving, they must know this is on the cards. I want to get my own head around it all first so I can be positive when discussing it with them.

They are very bright but not the easiest to parent, very strong-willed!

Has anyone been in this situation or any advice?

I think you should go for it...I don't think I would discuss shall we shan't we...Be positive, there may be sadness about leaving certain things but create and excitement too..it will be great...

Enjoy

That's what I thought which is why I've not made a big deal out of it before I've got my head round it so I'm not umming and ahrring in front of them! Thanks.

Hi Outnmbrd,

I did exactly this a year ago when I relocated from Yorkshire to London for a new career with my 3 DS. They were quite abit younger than your children (8, 6 and 4) at the time but have now settled in OK. My eldest son (now 9) took it the hardest as he had a more established friendship group and was quite angry at me for a long time (although his dad didn't help by rubbing it in that I was taking them away from him when he never really bothered with them when we lived 10 mins away anyway!). They all now refer to London as 'home' and have all made new friends at school.

It definitely is doable and you have to ask yourself how you would feel if you don't give it a go. I was so scared when I first moved but it's one of the best things I have done for my family and i'm sure your children will understand why you are doing this. London can be a big scary place but there is so much to do with children of all ages. They will be proud and inspired by their amazing mum who is willing to take the chance of a better life.

I wish you all the best of luck with whatever you decide :)